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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspie brother looks homeless |
| honeymiel |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2018, 10:10 pm
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| I think I understand your problem. It's difficult. My son does wash his clothes but he wont throw them out if they get problems like holes in them. He lives overseas so I don't see him often and the time before last when I visited I realised he was wearing shoes that were falling to bits and socks ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspie brother looks homeless |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2018, 10:01 pm
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| He will do what he wants but you could ask him to shower and put on some clean clothes before he comes over. I don't really mind how he dresses when we see him. What worries me is how he lives the rest of the time when we don't see him. I've been worried for years that he'll just kill himself one d... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspie brother looks homeless |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2018, 9:59 pm
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| unless you have the authority to fire, flunk, evict, or dump your brother, or something like that, you have no control over his appearance. your brother is 30 years old, as you said. and you are younger. whatever reason your brother looks the way he does, has been going on for a long time. way too ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspie brother looks homeless |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2018, 9:33 pm
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| Have you asked him why he presents himself as he does? Maybe he doesn't want people to get too close to him, so he doesn't wash and groom himself. I'm Transgender and Gay and I don't want guys to get too close to me, so I wear one of my three German helmets - 1 self-made, 1 toy and or the real one ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autistic regression? Becoming more autistic with age? |
| honeymiel |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2018, 6:44 pm
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| I feel like I know EXACTLY where you’re coming from on a few of these points, even though I’m only looking at changes from age 16 to now (nearly 27). Also find it funny that occasionally I too consider pretending to be deaf just to give myself a more concrete and “visible” excuse to be disengaged fr... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspie brother looks homeless |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2018, 6:20 pm
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| Both my older brother and I have ASD, his symptoms are much more obvious than mine but he is undiagnosed My older brother is 30. He's never had a girlfriend, has no friends, barely keeps in touch with family but will attend events a few times a year when we invite him. Problem is, even when he does ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help. Ruined my relationship? |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2018, 11:11 pm
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Replies: 17
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| you didn't ruin it, you two have different needs. you need a lot of space and he needs a lot of attention, and he misconstrues your need for space as disinterest in him and it isn't. that's a pretty tough one to deal with. That sounds pretty accurate. I would be able to increase contact gradually, ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help. Ruined my relationship? |
| honeymiel |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2018, 11:03 pm
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| I think I’m more concerned that you’ve been with the guy 3 months. You’re at the stage when you need to be thinking about just how long you want this thing to last. If you aren’t THAT serious and you don’t want to talk about getting married, it’s time to move on. I don’t mean he has to propose tomo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help. Ruined my relationship? |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2018, 10:47 pm
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| I’m worried frankly, that’s he has anger issues. He’s arguing with strangers on the Internet, and becoming so angry that he can’t be reasoned with. How angry could he get if he argues with real people in his life? It bothers me, because I really believe that people should seek to listen to reason, ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help. Ruined my relationship? |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2018, 10:38 pm
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| He likely just wants your support. He wants the person he cares about to have his back. Even though your criticism might be constructive and helpful, you were the last person he wanted to criticize him, when he was looking for you to ease his mind about his own conflict and perceived unjustified mi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My gf is very stalkerish. |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2018, 4:52 pm
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Replies: 16
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| To be fair, I have been on your girlfriend's side of this equation On Facebook Messenger for example, if your girlfriend is online and you two talk every day, you will be right at the top of her list showing other people who are online - like it is designed to be glaringly obvious because Facebook w... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help. Ruined my relationship? |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2018, 4:37 pm
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| I asked him at the start of the relationship, when I noticed him getting mad at another driver and turning classical music on the car radio, if he has anger issues. He said no The morning after that argument, he did the same thing and I can't remember if I asked or if he admitted that he has a tempe... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help. Ruined my relationship? |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2018, 4:01 pm
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| Your input is full of missing details... like what did you say and what did he say, if you are gonna tell us then tell us the whole stoy or nothing. I didn't want to go into too much detail because I didn't think people would want to read it. The argument was about something he wrote on Facebook. I... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help. Ruined my relationship? |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2018, 3:46 pm
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| I think you frustrate him—yet, he really likes you. One solution lies in seeking to listen to his concerns more. And....you being confident that he has a reason to skip work to be with you. How knowledgeable is he about autism? And your relationship to it? Specifically, what makes him angry and wan... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help. Ruined my relationship? |
| honeymiel |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2018, 1:30 am
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| Yes, it's me again. Dating NT guy for 3 mths, we have some really good moments but I've been having doubts I tried to cancel our plans the other night due to being burnt out socially, but he was upset so I invited him over anyway. He very kindly brought me some stuff he knows I like :heart: But late... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why would my family say these bad things about marriage? |
| honeymiel |
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Posted: 22 Feb 2018, 12:36 am
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Replies: 77
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| I think some of this has come out as a push against some of the older marital values that existed around the 50s and 60s, where women were subservient to men and had to dress for them, clean for them, cook for them, and accept their anger and lack of appreciation if it wasn't to the standard of thei... |
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