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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Told off for not looking happy and not talking enough |
| RandomFox |
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Posted: 18 Jul 2018, 12:44 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,035
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| I've been working at the same place for 6+ years and at the beginning I used to get similar messages - "not a team player", "avoids conversations with co-workers"... but in the end, by watching others, I adapted to their communication styles and I just take mental notes of things... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: loving a narcissist with BPD |
| RandomFox |
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Posted: 18 Jul 2018, 12:09 pm
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Replies: 49
Views: 1,770
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Possible? Yes.
Would you want that though?
If so... why?!
I'd say RUN |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Post something that made you UNHAPPY today. |
| RandomFox |
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Posted: 18 Jul 2018, 11:56 am
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Replies: 31,986
Views: 1,117,303
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I picked up a flea on public transport which got under my t shirt and bit me 20+ times along my left side. It died in the end, but these bites itch like hell and I do hope the flea hadn't been feasting on a mangy rat before it bit me  |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you wear a "mask" when around people? |
| RandomFox |
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Posted: 18 Jul 2018, 11:48 am
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Replies: 30
Views: 1,661
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| Yes, I wear a mask at work, pretty much 90% of the time, apart from times when it's just me and my boss chatting about electric cars or strange stuff and nobody else can see or hear me. He can totally relate to a part of me and it makes me feel comfortable enough to show a bit of my true nature. In ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Strong Emotions and Asexuality as a Defense Mechanism |
| RandomFox |
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Posted: 18 Jul 2018, 11:30 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 368
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| In my case asexuality is definitely connected to me being easily overwhelmed by all sorts of intense sensations. I'm sex-indifferent, so it's not a no go zone for me, but I don't see the point, I don't feel the attraction and it just doesn't have that "bonding quality" for me at all... it ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Poll: When walking do you focus on the ground or far ahead? |
| RandomFox |
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Posted: 04 Jul 2018, 10:50 am
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Replies: 27
Views: 830
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| As a child I used to focus on the ground most of the time while walking (and find coins, lost rings, all sorts of little treasures) but at some point I've realised people don't walk like that normally - they actually look around and interact with other people :D So... now I mostly look around/ahead ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What is the hardest thing for you when it comes to dating? |
| RandomFox |
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Posted: 17 Apr 2018, 1:50 am
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Replies: 182
Views: 4,753
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| The hardest thing? Being closer to asexual than sexual and even if at the very beginning it seems like not a massive problem, soon I'm in a position of them wanting to f*** my brains out daily/twice daily and I seriously can't stand it. Discussing things and talking does not help. I'm not into poly-... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Getting Sentences Wrong |
| RandomFox |
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Posted: 13 Apr 2018, 5:55 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 589
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| I mispronounce words often (like I mean to say 'a bit' but it comes out as 'a beet') and sometimes get a mental block in the middle of a sentence and can't finish it. People think mispronouncing words has something to do with me being a foreigner, so they don't really see it as a manifestation of an... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Eye Contact: Don't care, Don't know, Afraid, etc. |
| RandomFox |
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Posted: 13 Apr 2018, 5:39 am
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Replies: 24
Views: 730
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| Unless I'm really anxious, I try to make eye contact with people because I know it's very important to them. I kind of figured out how long I should look into their eyes, how often look away; some topics may require longer looking-away periods like when someone's feeling guilty, some require longer ... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Do you have a red flag list? |
| RandomFox |
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Posted: 11 Apr 2018, 1:07 pm
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Replies: 175
Views: 10,614
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| This is a very important topic. I massively struggle with noticing potential red flags or I try to explain them to myself somehow and analyse them instead of trusting my gut instinct (which - in retrospective - works really well, I just tend to ignore it!). I'm also very vulnerable to any pity play,... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: What is your favorite type of ship. |
| RandomFox |
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Posted: 11 Apr 2018, 10:27 am
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Replies: 27
Views: 825
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A loving relation...ship
(so bad, I know  )
but no, really it would be an 18th century frigate |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: "Aspergirls" by Rudy Simone |
| RandomFox |
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Posted: 10 Apr 2018, 4:42 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,340
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| I found this book very helpful and some parts were, honestly, like a copy from my diaries. There was one about somebody struggling to process everything in her environment on a windy day and that's just totally how I feel on a windy day. Chapter about puberty and mutism was also something I could re... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Attracting men your age |
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Posted: 10 Apr 2018, 4:25 pm
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Replies: 39
Views: 2,322
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| I have never been able to attract men in my age group. It seems that I can only attract creepy guys over 40. I wish I could attract guys my own age (mid to late twenties). Do any of you find it difficult to attract guys in your age group? Can we swap (minus 'creepy' factor)? When I'm out and about ... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: What qualifies as asexual? |
| RandomFox |
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Posted: 10 Apr 2018, 4:01 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 267
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| EzraS , when you fantasize, do you see yourself actively participating in the fantasy? Do you feel physically "hungry" for this type of participation (fantasy intercourse or other sexual activities)? If so, I wouldn't call you asexual. If not, if you're merely observing others in the fant... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Why can't you work full-time? |
| RandomFox |
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Posted: 10 Apr 2018, 2:40 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,373
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| I work 25hrs/week in a busy pharmacy (but mostly in the dispensary so customer contact is limited and I can use a kind of a mental script whenever I have to give advice) and honestly I could not survive working 8hrs a day there every day of the week. Two days in the week I work 9-6 with 1hr break an... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is there any dating sites worth my patients? |
| RandomFox |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2017, 3:43 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 1,187
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| I still like OKCupid, but maybe my experience is different as I'm asexual and open about it on that site. I'm not too bothered about relationships at the moment and use the dating site to just befriend people (again, I'm totally open about it to avoid wasting people's time) and connect with other as... |
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