Okay this is cool but....

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....but a million things. I have so many questions and have never had anywhere or anyone to ask before and there are so many cool and tolerant people here, so I don't want to risk alienating anyone. I have put out a few test posts with my honest opinions and am now waiting for the other shoe to drop...

See I was abused as a child and then got beat up or cussed at a lot. So I always tend to be afraid that all good things bring on bad things. Simplistic and childish but true.

And I am lousy about other peoples boundaries even though I am in person an INTENSELY private person. But I also believe in tolarance and in honesty, so here's an open invite - please tell me if I do something wrong so that I may endeavour to correct it.

Everyone has a right to their life and their opinions and as a Taoist, I am very hard to offend myself. We are ALL god, no matter what.

And if it's private, what is said to me stays with me. Period and no exceptions for anyone.

So hit me with your best shots.

I've been there; let's just say I didn't appreciate my two stepfathers very much. Are you currently in a safe situation?

It seems Aspie kids are bully magnets; and that includes bullying parents as well as other kids. It often complicates things; because victims (I hate that word) of abuse are likely to avoid social interaction, to flinch at physical contact, or to have problems with pessimism or low self-esteem. So on top of your Aspie tendencies, you have this environment which aggravates rather than helps you to compensate for your problems. Ouch!

Of course, this is not an insurmountable problem; and both AS and childhood abuse cause one to develop certain strengths others do not have. The human mind heals itself; over time, one can learn to understand and compensate for circumstances like this.

There are flame wars here, just like any other forum; but do not take things which happen on the Internet personally. It is very easy to lash out at someone you do not have to deal with daily; and this makes it easy to insult someone, since there are no real consequences. However, there are also good things; and you have noticed these already. Take advantage of the good in order to compensate for the bad.

I think it's horrible that parents bully their children. I think schools should provide phone numbers kids can call if they're being abused at home. And any parents who hit their kids, especially the ones threatening "I'll beat you if you call that number" should go to prison.