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tuesday night I went to a class about aspergers, I didn't actually know what the class would be about until I got there, I went with my mom and she said on our way there that he has aspergers. It was an interesting class, I'm 23 and I was the youngest there. Throughout the class the teacher said more and more things that related to me, sometimes even doing impressions of me, acting like me, I couldn't believe the things I was hearing. I e-mailed her last night and told her about me. She is a social worker that has two sons with autism so I hope she will tell me what she thinks I should do. I haven't been diagnosed yet but as far as I can tell I do have aspergers. My parents said that when my brother was diagnosed with it they told the therapist about me and the therapist thought I have it but they never told me about it until after the class was over. It really would have been nice to have an explanation as to why I could never do things in school like math and science and history, basically the general subjects. I'm fine with a lot of computer work but when things like that get complicated I stop functioning. I have many friends but rarely do anything with them. My favorite people I talk to are in their 70's and 80's. I rarely go do anything with my family and I prefer to stay in my room. I'm taking one online college class but I feel as if college is a waste for me because I don't think I can graduate, I've only taken a few classes and I can't focus on or understand way too many things for me to be able to succeed so I can graduate so I've been really frustrated and worried. I don't even know what kind of career I can do, I have been told I'm a good writer so that's about the only thing I can come up with. I do feel suddenly confused and wonder how much of me wouldn't be the same if I didn't have aspergers. I'm wondering if I shouldn't be friends with the older people I like so much that have been good to me, I don't have a grandpa and they've treated me like a grandpa. They are men I worked with and one of the symptoms I read is liking older people, I'm afraid that if I didn't have this then I wouldn't be friends with them like I am and I'm afraid if I didn't have this then I would be a lot different to the point that I wouldn't care to be friends with them. I feel sort of confused about what's my personality and what about me really is because of aspergers, like I really don't know who I am right now. I've gotten so confused and frustrated that I've been feeling depressed about it, not knowing what to do or how to feel. I read so many things about aspergers that I relate to so I feel as if I don't know who I really am now. I wonder if I am okay the way I am with my friends but looking at the symptoms it made me feel like having older friends and things like the way I am are wrong and as if I need to change so many things about myself to make me normal, but I guess it might be okay to just be me the way I already am. I'm not sure though, hopefully that will be good.

Nice to meet you, Chrishendrik.

if you have the opportunity, (unless you want to look forward to a lifetime of semi-skilled work), go for the degree. If nothing else, it improves your job chances, you eventually make far more than someone with a high school education, and you get to meet women...

and welcome.

welcome i am deathchibi.

It's never wrong to be friends with anybody who is kind.
When I was in elementary school and jr. high, all my friends were in their 70s and 80s. At age 54 I made my first elementary school age friend, a young boy with asperger's. I had shown him a worm tunnel shell I found on the beach, and then we started poking around on the internet to find a site that would let me hear hermit crabs chirp. We had fun. Nothing wrong there. Those of us with asperger's can enjoy any age of person. In fifth grade I started reading best seller novels. At age 55 I still read picture books for fun.
Calm down. You're going to be okay.

Aspergers doesn't define who you are. You're you. I would try not to dwell so much on the label, and just be yourself. Knowing about it and understanding the condition more is supposed to make you a better person IMO because then you see why you struggle in things like social situations, inflexibility, reading between the lines, failure to read non verbal cues but you learn to cope with the condition over time. You do learn to be flexible, you learn sarcasm, learn idioms, learn non verbal cues, etc. That is only if you work on your problems. I've read AS books and it has helped me be a better person. I learned little bit at a time.

Just be yourself.