Extrovert trapped in an introvert's body

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You know what I find offensive? The fact that you have the audacity to come on here and question me on whether or not I have Asperger's. Since you seem to have reading problems, I've already said earlier in this thread that I've been diagnosed, frankly I find it laughable that some ass-hat on the internet thinks he can re-diagnose me based on one post on a message board. Yes, I agree that a lot of people are confused about what Asperger's is and isn't. I, however, am not. This is not a "change" since I've been in college, and the fact that you're basically calling it a "phase" because you like to keep your little A.S. club as exclusive as possible just shows either your arrogance or your ignorance of the situation. So you either need to back off or make sure you know FULL WELL what you're doing before you start making comments on what another person does and does not "have".

I feel the same on a lot of points. I want friends, and I need to socialize sometimes. But it's very hard for me to find the energy to make new friends, and then maintain them in a college setting. In high school, I'd made my friends in childhood and in classes/clubs, so I saw them every day. I could go home and chill by myself and be introverted, and when I felt like talking to someone I could go downstairs and talk to my mom for a few minutes or whatever. And if I felt like socializing, I could call up a close friend and suggest we go to the mall. Here, I have to meet all new people, and usually I have to be in a group setting (i do much better with one on one friendships where I can sort of control what goes on...I'm not bossy or anything, I can just guide the conversation/activities, and my friend knows what I like), and when I'm in the group I have to do and talk about what the group wants. It's a lot of energy to constantly try to follow up with people I meet and make plans - it's really hard for me. It's hard for me to find time for myself, also, so i just get sick of socializing. Here, I can't just talk to someone for 5 minutes, or call up one person to do an activity. Socialization requires much more of a commitment here, and it's really difficult.