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Olivia (27 months) is a little sick with the sniffles. She didn't sleep well at all last night and this morning every single word out of her mouth is "no". Even when I'm not talking to her, "no". Not kidding or exaggerating. She hasn't said anything else except "no" all morning.

She's not eating but for a few raisins and her juice.

Crying non-stop

First take her into the Dr. to make sure it's nothing worse than a bad cold. If that's all that it is her crankyness will pass when she feels better. It's tough being a parent, for sure, hang in there.

My AS/PDD son went through a few weeks of saying "no" about everything at almost exactly that age; it drove me literally mad, meltdown level, and my reactions, ( combined with his papa's which were probably worse than they would otherwise have been because the papa was freaked out by mine ), may have taught him that the word is dangerous. ie. I was not nice, at all.

Don't know what effect our reactions may have had on his ability to say "no" reasonably and calmly, because he can't.

Soft boiled egg? Chicken? Mashed potato with lots of butter? Apple puree? Warm drinks ( honey and ginger, blackcurrant, rosehip, hot chocolate )? A bath if she likes them? A good fascinating film? Lots of cuddles, if you can manage it? Sunshine, if there is any near you right now?

Hope she feels better soon. Hope you can cope with the "no"s. Best wishes.

Edit/PS. Just thought of a big/distressing crying period he went through, from 18 months to almost two years; before we realised my son was celiac, and he began to suffer terrible pain a few/several hours after eating anything with gluten in, ( took us a while to realise that was it; kept thinking it was other things, headaches, general indigestion, spicy food, bad dreams if it was in the night, etc ). He wouldn't eat anything then either, didn't want to drink even, and used to struggle in cuddles, probably because it put extra pressure on the "soreness" in his guts. Nothing helped ... until we eliminated gluten.

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I don't think she's anywhere on the spectrum but thanks for the advise.

Frist, have her ears checked. Colds can quickly lead to ear infections at this age, and the crying non-stop has me wondering about the ears. That was the only way I knew with my kids - they cried.

Second, she doesn't have to be on the spectrum to have food sensitivities. IF the obvious illnesses seem to abate and she remains cranky, I would definitely check out food issues.

Third, don't worry too much about the not eating. That is common when kids don't feel well. Keep up the fluids, do your best to keep her comfortable, and let her be how she needs to be until she gets through the illness. I know its hard and stressful, but tune it out, stay focused on what she seems to need, and know that this, too, will pass.

Best of luck. Sick toddlers can be very, very trying.

DW_a_mom is right on the mark. Remeber that "no" is a power word for a kid that age and don't let it bother you it's just her "curse word". Go see the doctor as soon as your able to get those ears checked and try a warm bath you might want to pick-up some vapor bath it always helped when my boys were little.

Doc to have her checked, and don't worry about food. Keep her drinking, but a day or two without food won't do her any harm.
Does she have all her teeth? The last few are supposed to be horrible....

I think the cold has stopped her from having a good nights sleep, and now today you are paying the price for her sleep deprivation!! !!

ALWAYS take her temperature if she is cranky or fussy, it can be a good indicator (not always though) for any infection that you may not be able to see. ie: ears, throat, urinary tract infection (common in girls) etc.

Hope she is feeling a little better by now, its hard when they are not well, even harder when you have no clue whats wrong ! !! ! xx

thanks folks.

She's not showing any of the classic symptoms of an ear infection. You know, tugging at ears, vomiting and so on.

She's been up and down today. If she doesn't get her way (especially with bed), she'll pitch a fit. Otherwise, she's happy like right now. She ate a good portion of her dinner.

I, too think that her sleep was the main issue today. She was still in bed when I went into her room. I think I woke her up and toddlers do not like to be roused. Sleep inertia.

I NEVER heard of vomiting, and there is no rule that says there has to be any tugging, etc....



I could understaand how she feels. WHO CARES if she is NT, AS, autistic, or whatever? If she is REALLY feeling bad, she simply may NOT want to talk, and she hopes NO will get you off her back, etc.... I've been there! Just today, my mother, who worked her way into staying at my home a while, asked a LOT of questions. My answer to the FIFTH question was "You want to take a guess?" Do you know WHY!?!? Because my answer to the other four was "NOT TODAY!"

I never thought of it that way, equating "no" to swearing, but I love it. I'm going to remember that phrase

For the record, neither of my kids EVER did any of the above when they have ear infections. They just cried.

Your little sweetheart is just telling you she doesn't feel well in her own unique way. Take Olivia to the doctor's anyway. kids like ours are VERY sensitive to change...change in health as well.
Sniffles to us is true discomfort to them.

I agree that you need to see the doctor to rule out upper respiratory infection, strep throat and/or ear infection. Better to be safe than sorry. I hope your little one gets relief from the cold soon!