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My daughter gets violent when she's distressed. I have scars and bruises from the past week. But physical discomfort is temporary and while she's angry at me, I always know that I'm bigger and stronger than her so I've never felt scared (most posters in this forum are Moms with AS sons so I wonder how you deal with violence when they reach maturity). In a sense, lack of empathy is helpful because she can be raging at me and I don't get drawn into her extreme emotions. While there's no clear immediate benefit, i hope that I am setting an example that she will remember in the future.

While your physical discomfort may be only a temporary inconvenience for you, what about if/when she is physically violent with other people? It won't always be a situation where the person she is violent with is bigger and stronger and can "take it". This is the very real fear for many moms with AS sons who at 11 or 12 may be as big as their moms. I have this concern with my 5 yo DS right now, not that he will hurt me but that he will hurt his teacher or another child. Momsparky's "no angy touching" rule is what we are working towards at our house. I realized that I cannot allow him to get away with hitting me but expect him not to hit other people.

So far that has never happened. She is a person who bottles up all her stress and only unleashes it when she feels a certain level of comfort, at home.




Yes. If I were in your position then I would be scared. Does my daughter hit me because she trusts me - even though she's enraged, she's made a rational calculation that I wont hurt her? Would a son hold back from hurting his Mom because he makes a rational calculation that he still needs her? I'm not in a position to answer that.

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