Treelen wrote:
My son is becoming more delusional and having a hard time coping in high school. The demands on him are overwhelming. He cant make sounds. He is stiming more and he is acting out. Yesterday he threw his food across the cafeteria because the teacher would not give him anything to drink. He is talking and making noise in class and disturbing the other students. He is aware of what he is doing and just laughs about it. His imaginary friends are not allowed at school this year, so we ask that they not show up. Last year he was fine. I guess hormones play into this also. I dont know but I am not sure how to handle this. I have talked softly and explained why we have to grow up etc. That did not work. I yelled till I am blue in the face. I know that is NOT the answer either. Does anyone have any tips or advice they can give me. We take away his computer and notebook and he is good for about a day, then it starts over again. Last year he got X,s on his behavior sheet. His teacher has not given any behavior plan so maybe the boundries are not as apparent. He is out of control.
Any advice?? I know this is alot but nothing seems to be working.
My guess is that something is stressing him out in the school setting. Why couldn't he get the drink? While a school should not give into bad behavior, it should also know to avoid situations that will set a child off. The more stressed your son is, the less able he is to control his behaviors.
Consequences (with the except of calming "time outs'") always made things worse with my son. If your son is anything like mine, he doesn't want to engage in disfavored behavior, he just can't help it when he is overloaded. If you solve the overload issue, you solve the behavior issue. And improve the happiness of your child. Win win.
Remember, also, that his emotional age and developmental maturity are probably closer to his academic age than his physical one. He may not have the developmental readiness for a high school setting, even in a special needs class. Getting through a high school day typically involves quite a lot of executive function, as well as sensory challenges.
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Mom to an amazing young adult AS son, plus an also amazing non-AS daughter. Most likely part of the "Broader Autism Phenotype" (some traits).