Losing stuff!

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My kid lost a report he had 2 weeks to do! I checked in his bookbag the morning before he took it to school and it was there 5 minutes before he left. By the time he got to school and they were to hand them in, it was gone. He was happy with it, had a blast making it (it was an ice cream cone made of construction paper with the setting and plots of a story and he even made a cherry on top that he put his name on. I have no clue.

We still had the paper we had as a draft so he just decided to make a bike mobile (a paper bike hanging from a hanger) with the same information on it. hopefully it will make it in tomorrow... There is this little black hole that sucks in needed things between home and school.

He managed to lose a shoe in kindergarten. He got off the bus and I said "where is your other shoe?" he said "oh, I must have lost it." he hadn't even realized that he only had ONE SHOE ON. How does one lose a shoe and not realize it, I mean they were on his feet. haha. Boots I get, you aren't wearing them and they might fall out of your bag... but a shoe?

I lost a big report once, had to take half credit for it even. Was in high school though. I apparently got some ice for my drink and left my report in the freezer. Perhaps his ice cream book report will turn up one day. who knows.

we went through this when son was in 7th grade. the school was opposed to "intervening" ( of course this was pre-dx,too). it was a fight to get them to help son- they felt that he was irresponsible, and that we were "coddling him "
we finally got the school to realize that son needed help. he ended up having a folder to put homework in- his homeroom teacher would help make sure his homework made it to the folder & then that the folder made it to his classes.

Heck, this is the story of my life, lol. Even with my many compensations, I still lose things left and right. One of my greatest accomplishments in recent history has been managing to keep the same pair of gloves for an entire year.

I have two basic options: extreme, rigid, sytematized, inflexible organization (provided I manage to keep up with it) or none at all ... and when I try the 'none at all' track, I lose *everything.* I think I probably turned in some 10% of my homework between 1st and 6th grade -- and, to this day, I still don't know what I did with the rest of it. Invariably, the time would come to hand my homework in, and (assuming I hadn't lost it between school and home the previous night) I would be completely unable to explain where it had gone.

Every time my BF (a biology/geology double-major at university) carelessly slings his papers (including term papers and take-home exams) in his backpack willy-nilly, I have to check the urge to say, "HAVE YOU LOST YOUR MIND?" Of course, I'm sure he wants to ask me that just about as frequently -- like when I inexplicably (in his eyes) insist on moving the mail that's perfectly well organized on the table in my studio back to the mantle in the front room, because that was its original established location, and now it must go there forever and ever, amen.

son still lost papers too- even with the folder........don't know how exactly..........finally got the teacher to stay with him while he opened his backpack

Is it possible that someone, another child, took it?
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I don't know, anything is possible. I'm leaning toward the black hole between home and school though.

I'm hoping his bike mobile made it in today. haha. Unfortunately his RC folder (reading counts, where he logs what he read for his 15 minutes and gets me to sign it) disappeared between last night and this morning.

I was SO surprised when we didn't have to search for his hat this morning. I just expected it to be left at school. I tried not to let on though. My poor 6 year old thought he was already on vacation this morning and was kind of bummed when I told him one last day before vacation. My 9 year old got off to a not great start as well. He got toothpaste on his hand and started yelling for me to come and get his toothbrush ready for him and was watery eyed. I think and hope we got back on the right path before I sent them out the door. He promised to try and learn something new for me.

All elementary school kids lose things ... one look at the five bins of lost and found in our 300 child school will tell you that. But, it does seem to get compounded by the AS. Maybe it's related to the "executive function" thing?

My son lost an important report and was so frustrated he only redid a 5th of it. And got a D. Sigh.

Another compounding factor is that boys acquire organizational skills at a later age than girls, apparently, and the school expectations tend to be ahead of their development (just learned this at a talk I went to).

I've accepted that I need to organize my son, and he's in 6th grade. Your story makes me glad he doesn't ride the bus - just one more step during which everything can be lost, basically, lol.

And we spend a LOT of money on jackets. Thank goodness for Target.

Yeah, we've had 3 winter coats disappear as well...

I can have stuff disappear without ever getting up from my seat. I favor the black hole explanation. Or maybe the Wee Ones. Sometimes stuff reappears in unlikely places. I'm trying to teach my dd to put stuff in specific places, so I hope she'll have an easier time of it.

MY eldest is shocking for this ... E.G. - "pretty sure i sent you to school with a hat and 2 socks on"... then again I loose my wallet every second day and TV remote 3 or 4 times an evening.

My parent used to give up trusting me with the dinner money. They used to put cash or a cheque in a dinner money envelope and give it to me to give to the teacher. Time after time it would simply vanish. To this day I cannot work out how it kept disappearing from my hand. It was most upsetting I wish I could know how it went missing but I'm afraid I never will.