20 Sep 2012, 3:46 pm
20 Sep 2012, 3:46 pm
JakobVirgil wrote:
AspieRogue wrote:
^I do not assume that people are "bad", but I've learned to trust but verify . I've also learned that if you assume that people are generous and rely on them to help you out when you need it the most, you WILL be let down 9 times out of 10. If people treat me well, I treat them well in return. But if they don't, or they stop, then I reciprocate.
The best strategy in life is put yourself in the company of people who are accepting of you and avoid places where you are unwelcome whenever possible. People ARE going to judge you on things you don't control over and this is not something that you have the power to change. But what keeps me going and helps me deal with people is to remember that whenever people reject me or treat me unfairly, it's not because of me; it's because of THEM.
And FYI JakobVirgil, assuming that most people are inherently good(as I've said before ITT) can easily lead to unrealistic expectations of people that leave you bitter when you discover that people don't live up to them. Choosing truth over happiness ultimately makes you much happier in the long run. Cynical people are hardly ever disappointed.
The best strategy in life is put yourself in the company of people who are accepting of you and avoid places where you are unwelcome whenever possible. People ARE going to judge you on things you don't control over and this is not something that you have the power to change. But what keeps me going and helps me deal with people is to remember that whenever people reject me or treat me unfairly, it's not because of me; it's because of THEM.
And FYI JakobVirgil, assuming that most people are inherently good(as I've said before ITT) can easily lead to unrealistic expectations of people that leave you bitter when you discover that people don't live up to them. Choosing truth over happiness ultimately makes you much happier in the long run. Cynical people are hardly ever disappointed.
Cynicism is the often the disguise of an Idealist.
Well let's put it this way, I've always never been the kind of person who is willing to accept the world(and the people in it)just the way it is. If that makes me a disguised idealist, well, that's okay with me.
However, the presumption that human behavior is driven by impulse and emotive forces rather than rational, deliberate decision making has cleared up much confusion I used to have about why people do the things they do. And furthermore, the assumption of INSTINCTIVE rather than deliberate selfishness has been extremely helpful to me to reduce the incidence of being taken advantage of. People follow the least action principle: They behave in ways that are as convenient for them as possible. If don't believe me, then try leaving one of your valuables(other than a cellphone) in a public place that is crowded and where there's no security over night and see if it's still there.
20 Sep 2012, 4:02 pm
AspieRogue wrote:
JakobVirgil wrote:
AspieRogue wrote:
^I do not assume that people are "bad", but I've learned to trust but verify . I've also learned that if you assume that people are generous and rely on them to help you out when you need it the most, you WILL be let down 9 times out of 10. If people treat me well, I treat them well in return. But if they don't, or they stop, then I reciprocate.
The best strategy in life is put yourself in the company of people who are accepting of you and avoid places where you are unwelcome whenever possible. People ARE going to judge you on things you don't control over and this is not something that you have the power to change. But what keeps me going and helps me deal with people is to remember that whenever people reject me or treat me unfairly, it's not because of me; it's because of THEM.
And FYI JakobVirgil, assuming that most people are inherently good(as I've said before ITT) can easily lead to unrealistic expectations of people that leave you bitter when you discover that people don't live up to them. Choosing truth over happiness ultimately makes you much happier in the long run. Cynical people are hardly ever disappointed.
The best strategy in life is put yourself in the company of people who are accepting of you and avoid places where you are unwelcome whenever possible. People ARE going to judge you on things you don't control over and this is not something that you have the power to change. But what keeps me going and helps me deal with people is to remember that whenever people reject me or treat me unfairly, it's not because of me; it's because of THEM.
And FYI JakobVirgil, assuming that most people are inherently good(as I've said before ITT) can easily lead to unrealistic expectations of people that leave you bitter when you discover that people don't live up to them. Choosing truth over happiness ultimately makes you much happier in the long run. Cynical people are hardly ever disappointed.
Cynicism is the often the disguise of an Idealist.
Well let's put it this way, I've always never been the kind of person who is willing to accept the world(and the people in it)just the way it is. If that makes me a disguised idealist, well, that's okay with me.
However, the presumption (1)that human behavior is driven by impulse and emotive forces rather than rational, deliberate decision making has cleared up much confusion I used to have about why people do the things they do. And furthermore, (2)the assumption of INSTINCTIVE rather than deliberate selfishness has been extremely helpful to me to reduce the incidence of being taken advantage of. People follow the least action principle: (3)They behave in ways that are as convenient for them as possible. If don't believe me, then try leaving one of your valuables(other than a cellphone) in a public place that is crowded and where there's no security over night and see if it's still there.
These are not arguments they are agreements.
1. Assuming people are rational and do stuff on purpose is not only not effective it is a good way to get ones feelings hurt.
2. This is also a good mechanism like bicyclingguitarist and his those damn people shtick.
It helps a body to not take it personal.
3. I have found (and this is totally anecdotal) I can leave my thumb drive in a community college computer for weeks at a time (I am a bit forgetful and sometimes teach classes there) or in one of the department computers (any department not just mine) but in the general computer labs at the university if I go to the bathroom my stick is gone.
20 Sep 2012, 4:51 pm
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I know this may not always be true but I feel tempted to act like this sometimes! 
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eOmIr4TR9lU[/youtube]
27 Sep 2012, 1:40 pm
@ AspieOtaku
Thank you so much for saying so many awesome things that desperately need to be said.
27 Sep 2012, 2:51 pm
DarthMetaKnight wrote:
@ AspieOtaku
Thank you so much for saying so many awesome things that desperately need to be said.
You are welcome Bro fist back!!
Thank you so much for saying so many awesome things that desperately need to be said.
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