Is it creepy for older men to prefer younger women?

Page 6 of 17 [ 249 posts ] Go to page Previous 1 ... 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9 ... 17 Next

Joined: 18 Jun 2012
Age:51
Posts: 10,400
Location: Aux Arcs

01 Jan 2014, 9:02 pm

Puh-leeeeze,watching Titanic thirty times?Harlequin romances?Now you are just being downright insulting AP,for shame.
I think Gustav Klimt's The Kiss shows tenderness and love.

_________________
Queen of the Nagas

salamandaqwerty
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 26 Nov 2013
Age:35
Posts: 1,375

01 Jan 2014, 9:11 pm

ArrantPariah wrote:

salamandaqwerty wrote:

try finding them yourself you might learn something

Well, you tell me some examples, then.

Apparently, men are more visually stimulated, while, for women, the context is more important.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2739403/

Hence, a huge porn industry largely addressing the needs of men, and Harlequin Romance Novels taking care of the needs of the ladies.

I don't expect women to put down their romance novels and start watching porn with me. And, women shouldn't expect that men are going to want to watch Titanic 30 times.

We're wired differently and stimulated differently.

i will take my time to consider some appropriate works you might actually really like them. porn is a billion dollar industry. i wouldn't use coke-cola as an example of why we genetically prefer carbonated cola beverages. honestly ask yourself if you would prefer an intimate loving sexual relationship with someone who accepts you, your vulnerabilities , strengths and humanness and reveals theirs to you or take advantage of a girl coming in to their sexual identity and why

_________________
Man is condemned to be free; because once thrown into the world, he is responsible for everything he does

aghogday
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 25 Nov 2010
Age:55
Posts: 8,005

01 Jan 2014, 9:43 pm

Well..when i married my wife she was 19 and i was 29..

And now she's 43 and i'm 53...

But i can circles around her..so it depends i guess..

I seriously am stronger and more 'proficient' now at 53 than i was at 18...

So yeah.. it depends.

i guess..

But anyway my wife still occasionally gets carded at the casino..

So i guess it's something i don't really have to think about....

She simply never ages..

And i get younger..

It's a great deal...

Oh..but that's another story...

But seriously most all men lust after younger girls..it's in he human male genetics..

As younger women are simply more fertile..and more likely to produce healthy children..

So if anyone says they don't like younger women..i would seriously not take them seriously...

for the most part anyway....

And seriously..whatever it takes..people who really take care of themselves really don't age that much

until they reach 60....

Lots of examples illustrate that..

But more so.. seriously.. in developing countries...where people even exercise anymore...

And stress oh my god stress..reduces the length of the telemeres...

But the opposite does the opposite as well....

I am living proof of that...

And a healthy good looking middle age human..is pretty good evidence of great genetics...

But i don't have that..but wait..i look like i do..

Looks can be deceiving too...

But the bottom line on whether or not it is creepy..is also dependent on culture...

Our culture values 'pretty boys'..pretty well these days..

But in other cultures..the cultural values..have really little to do with 'good' looks..

Although biological determinants and propensities stay the same...

Probably why about a quarter of pregnancies almost everywhere ya look..are not sired by the 'legal' father...It's the act that counts...wherever it may be and go....

EVen in countries where men think they rule the women...

It doesn't take long to do it....and there are always closed doors...somewhere...

Sorry if i went on a little too long about this..but it is a lifetime special interest of mine..in human behavior....

_________________
KATiE MiA FredericK!iI

Gravatar is one of the coolest things ever!! !

http://en.gravatar.com/katiemiafrederick

salamandaqwerty
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 26 Nov 2013
Age:35
Posts: 1,375

01 Jan 2014, 10:01 pm

i honestly don't believe that is universally true. when i look at younger girls i think of kittens or puppies they are very cute and adorable but i wouldn't want to have sex with one. i honestly believe the modern western culture is obsessed with youth to an incredibly unhealthy extent. and this obsession with justifying everything with pop genetics is ludicrous. its not that long ago that phrenology was considered proof certain and now it is laughed at by the same people who firmly believe in the proof certain of extrapolating assumptions based on undefined genetic predisposition's. There is billions of dollars being made on perpetuating these ridiculous ideals of youth and beauty. you are actually more attracted to these traits because of billion dollar marketing designed specifically to sell you this ideal as a shiny need worthy product.
i find it really sad

_________________
Man is condemned to be free; because once thrown into the world, he is responsible for everything he does

aghogday
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 25 Nov 2010
Age:55
Posts: 8,005

02 Jan 2014, 12:18 am

salamandaqwerty wrote:

Of course it's not Universally true..

Humans act upon culture at least as much as biology..

Both Environment and Biology play a role..

But inherently speaking..overall..when it comes to reproduction..men will choose healthy fertile women..and no i'm not talking about frigging 13 years olds..

Full reproductive maturity..per survival rate of children..occurs well after that..point....

_________________
KATiE MiA FredericK!iI

Gravatar is one of the coolest things ever!! !

http://en.gravatar.com/katiemiafrederick

ArrantPariah
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 30 Mar 2012
Age:111
Posts: 8,800

02 Jan 2014, 12:40 am

salamandaqwerty wrote:

that quote actually reveals more about a troubled relationship with Malay than anything else.

Probably more of a troubled relationship with his English fiancée.

Regarding the protagonist's relationships with Malays:

http://books.google.com/books?id=ARNKAz ... on&f=false

Quote:

It was because of George Wheeler that I started to draw.

Wheeler, the manager of the Bukit Merah Rubber Estate in Malaya, lived alone in a huge gloomy bungalow submerged in an ocean of rubber trees. He was an unhappy and frustrated man. And the day I arrived out from England to start work as an assistant, he addressed me as follows:

"You'll find me a pretty easy-going boss on the whole--but there's one thing I will not tolerate on this estate. And that's miscegenation."

I said uncomfortably, "I'm not quite sure what that means."

"Messing with native women."...

....The first time I really felt the effect of the prohibition on myself was about a month after my arrival, when I fell in love with a Malay girl.

She was not employed on the estate, but would walk past my bungalow several times a day, and always at mealtimes when I was on the verandah. Was this only a coincidence? I suspected otherwise, because of her wicked laughing eyes and the provocative swing of her hips when she knew I watched her....I became obsessed by her, and all day long out on the estate I would be yearning for the next glimpse of her, and making plans for possessing her without the knowledge of Wheeler. A dozen times I nearly ran out to her; then fear of losing my job would prevail. Eventually she stopped coming. I had not even spoken to her, het despair went to the depths of my soul.

After that the days seemed to drag, the evenings to be interminable...I began to drink more than was good for me....I thought one evening, "I shall go to pieces within a year. I must do something--find a hobby." And I took an old exercise book and a ball-point pen, and began to draw....

....{upon telling Mr. Wheeler that he was quitting to go to Hong Kong to paint} "Anyhow, you've only yourself to blame. If it hadn't been for you I might never have started painting."

"What do you mean?"

"That ban on miscegenation."...

So, yeah, a bit of a troubled relationship, due to his employer's prohibition on miscegenation. But, it did get him into painting.

salamandaqwerty
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 26 Nov 2013
Age:35
Posts: 1,375

02 Jan 2014, 12:45 am

can you always tell the difference between a 13 year old girl and a 16 year old girl? its only 3 years difference. do you think you could instinctively know the difference and be more attracted to one more than the other based on the survivability ratios of your offspring? pfft
thin line mate thin line

_________________
Man is condemned to be free; because once thrown into the world, he is responsible for everything he does

ArrantPariah
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 30 Mar 2012
Age:111
Posts: 8,800

02 Jan 2014, 12:52 am

Misslizard wrote:

Puh-leeeeze,watching Titanic thirty times?Harlequin romances?Now you are just being downright insulting AP,for shame.

Well, you must know some neurotypical ladies who will watch Titanic over and over. I know, it is a bit like generalizing that men like to watch football, when probably no-one here does.

Misslizard wrote:

I think Gustav Klimt's The Kiss shows tenderness and love.

Very nice. Of course, it could be looked at in different ways. Like he is choking her and/or eating her. But, she does look serene and comfy.

How about this one?

Or, is that too obscene?

salamandaqwerty
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 26 Nov 2013
Age:35
Posts: 1,375

02 Jan 2014, 12:59 am

i have dated a lot of women. and not one has liked to watch titanic or read romance novels. stop trying to prove a point through generalizations and misconceptions. you never answered my question about honestly asking yourself which you would prefer. by the way that image is far from obscene what would you consider obscene?

_________________
Man is condemned to be free; because once thrown into the world, he is responsible for everything he does

leafplant
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 5 Oct 2013
Age:44
Posts: 2,222

02 Jan 2014, 6:41 am

salamandaqwerty wrote:

ArrantPariah wrote:

salamandaqwerty wrote:

try finding them yourself you might learn something

[img][800:1100]http://www.artinternationalwholesale.com/images/product_detail/Artists/Rembrandt/Rembrandt%20Reproduction%20Oil%20Paintings009.jpg[/img]

ArrantPariah
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 30 Mar 2012
Age:111
Posts: 8,800

02 Jan 2014, 8:54 am

ArrantPariah wrote:

Misslizard wrote:

I think Gustav Klimt's The Kiss shows tenderness and love.

Very nice. Of course, it could be looked at in different ways. Like he is choking her and/or eating her. But, she does look serene and comfy.

Looking at this one again: no-one's neck bends that way, or it looks like her neck is where her ear should be. Maybe her head fell off and he is trying to put it back.

Also, I think that Puddingmouse's concern is equality. In this one, the man appears to dominate the woman. He is standing up, whilst she is kneeling. If she were to stand up, then she would be much taller than he. In which case, the woman is going out of her way to subordinate herself to the man.

ArrantPariah
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 30 Mar 2012
Age:111
Posts: 8,800

02 Jan 2014, 8:57 am

leafplant wrote:

[img][800:1100]http://www.artinternationalwholesale.com/images/product_detail/Artists/Rembrandt/Rembrandt%20Reproduction%20Oil%20Paintings009.jpg[/img]

ArrantPariah
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 30 Mar 2012
Age:111
Posts: 8,800

02 Jan 2014, 9:14 am

salamandaqwerty wrote:

honestly ask yourself if you would prefer an intimate loving sexual relationship with someone who accepts you, your vulnerabilities , strengths and humanness and reveals theirs to you or take advantage of a girl coming in to their sexual identity and why

I wasn't saying that this was my preference. I'm just saying that, within the male heterosexual psyche, on some level, exists the desire to ravish a nubile hot young blossom. And, this desire seems to be presenting itself in various popular art-forms. And, this desire may have a biologic basis. But, most of us our very good about repressing this desire.

Of course, at the conclusion of much thought and deliberation, most of us decide that we prefer an intimate loving sexual relationship with someone who accepts us, etc. etc. But, bring us to a beach, and, no matter how old we are, we will still want to look at the nubile hot young blossoms in the bikinis.

Misslizard
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 18 Jun 2012
Age:51
Posts: 10,400
Location: Aux Arcs

02 Jan 2014, 10:34 am

Maybe the man is also on his knees,his dressing gown covers them.She has a bad cramp in her neck,he's trying to massage it.

_________________
Queen of the Nagas

ArrantPariah
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 30 Mar 2012
Age:111
Posts: 8,800

02 Jan 2014, 10:46 am

Misslizard wrote:

Maybe the man is also on his knees,his dressing gown covers them.

Well, that could be. We don't see his feet, either.

Misslizard wrote:

She has a bad cramp in her neck,he's trying to massage it.

Well, yes. I concede that this is a much more likely interpretation than her head fell off and he is trying to put it back on.

Page 6 of 17 [ 249 posts ] Go to page Previous 1 ... 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9 ... 17 Next

Jump to:

Is it creepy for older men to prefer younger women? Post Reply New Topic

Is it creepy for older men to prefer younger women?