The Misfit Club - for all those aliens feeling left behind

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The first and foremost was learning to manage my schedule. Especially if you are living at school, that alarm clock is your friend. Big wirtten calendars on my door to keep assignments and due dates straight... The actual work itself was easy compared to the executive issues.

I think I also needed quite a bit more maturity before I went to school. I suffered from 'away from home' syndrome and went a bit nuts. I could have gotten so much more out of college if I had the maturity to buckle down and really learn something. I approached it more like an extention of high school rather than a life lesson kind of exercise. A mentor would have been incredibly useful - someone to really direct me in a direction. Help me define my goals so I got the most out of the courses I took.

Of course, I had no idea I had 'issues' when I went to college. I had graduated four years before Asperger's was even an official diagnosis. I wouldn't be afriad to be upfront with a school councellor about your DX and inquire about an on campus advocates or student groups. Even if you hate the social parts of it, knowing who your resources are is invaluable.

hi evil eyes-
college was alright, it was there that i discovered my interest in audio engineering. i also attended a quarter at a university...it was complete overload; in every way. never again. i'm planning to return to community college and finish a degree at some point..and while i am no example of an A student with tough classes, i can definitely tell you you'll need to stay very organized and mentally on top of things if you want good grades. getting distracted with the many activities and events going on around you can make that difficult.

college is a lot of work, but you can do it

I've been an misfit/outsider for over 30+yrs now whether it has been in the social arena of real life from the days of school to the times of being in the workplace up through the current timeline.
In several ways I've never fitted in anywhere be it in with the school children of the various neighborhoods & communities I'ved lived or being a legititimate member of any only social structure including WrongPlanet! These days I honestly try my best to be seen as a worthwhile individual of some collective reality of sorts..Deep down inside I've often felt like a failure for not being able to grasp and master the needed social,mental,emotional that are mandatory to acquire any sort of contented life.. I'm not overly cynical nor pessimistic just, that there has been some unpleasant circumstances along the way that has made the progress of learning more difficult.

In terms of online social achievements I'd say that my attempts have resulted in shoddy results for, in my own perception that maybe some people see me as some boring,mudane & trivial person whereby, others simply just choose to walk on by one could say..Seeing as how I've been dealing with depression & anxiety for over 20yrs I often try not to get on anyone's nerves wherebty, I hold back sometimes in trying to make social interactions work. Honestly, I don't know where I belong both in real life and online for that matter as, maybe oneday I'll find it out.

Hi ProfessorX It's nice to see you here because this thread is already a club I don't fit into (no offense intended). I know it wasn't meant to be, but once a conversation has started it's hard for others to join in if they don't have anything to add to the current conversational line. Same with the Dino cafe thread.

community college - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Community_ ... ted_States

the community college i attended is smaller, lower key, and less.... BIG haha. students don't cram into dorms, they usually live off-campus. community college differs from a university in that students aren't placed into a huge social scene, huge campus, and huge agenda; my community college offered students the opportunity to earn an AA degree (takes around 2 years to complete for the average student). it's a relaxed environment, without any real social hierarchy at all. in my experience.

meds, sleep, coffee whatever it takes

Honestly, I don't mind being an outsider cause, it's better to be who you are in that to express yourself honestly and truthfully not lying to one's self or another..Well, beyond this I can only add the following comments Yes, it's nice to see you here Aimless aslo Zen thanks for the wholehearte kind words..

evil_eyes - I don't know where you are but getting a dx may be helpful to hlep you at this big point in your life. Moving on to college and adulthood - aka 'the rest of your life' is a big transition people without 'issues' sometimes can't handle. Dig around and find the resources in your area. I really get the feeling that a little bit of support would do wonders for you. You already seem to have a good handle on things - you just need some support to get on and stay on track.

HI ProfessorX - you are most welcomed to the club! I'm sorry aimless and Zen haven't felt able to jump in - I got carried away with the boy stuff earlier... But I promise. It's not all zombies and miniguns. In fact, I may suggest the boys and I take the zombie talk to our own 'Preparing for the ZA" thread because, everyone needs a little disaster preparedness education. Especially from zombies.

Please- feel free to post whatever you like - don't worry about 'butting in' on a thread. Seriously. I may not share all your interests but I'd be more than happy to try and find some common ground. Or blaze some new ones. I just got tired of being discounted and/or ignored on other boards - things involving my interests. Even here it was a bit intimidating. BUT - I rest more secure in the knowledge that there are other misfits that feel like me. somehow, I find some comfort in that.

So - ladies - gentlemen; what do you want to talk about?! currently, in my neck of the woods, Spring has finally got a solid foothold. My daffodils are finally up and blooming, the cherry trees are blooming and I seriously hurt myself in the garden yesterday. It's not hard to do actually. I have fibromyalgia so a bit of raking, two bags full of leaves and I'm down for the count for a few days. But the yard is starting to look prettier. I suppose I should break my hibernation and make the effort to, at least, leave the house on a daily basis. Get my 15 minutes of sun for my vitamin D dose...

How's Spring treating you?

well, today i about sneezed up a lung, other then that it's pleasant, if a bit to warm