Who here LIKES surprises?

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Oops, to answer your initial question - No, I absolutely despise surprises

Well, I tried talking to the boyfriend. He got upset with me because although he realized I had "social paranoia issues" he didn't want to ruin the surprise. Didn't want to ruin the surprise for who, I wonder, his family or me? Maybe for those people who like surprises it would have been a fun occasion to be the celebrant of a party in their honor. But he is aware that I am not one of those people.

So I can only assume that he meant that he didn't want to ruin the surprise for his family. Maybe keeping secrets is fun for people? I honestly don't know. But what I don't understand is why would they want to insist that a surprise party is better than a planned one? They COULD have said to me, "We are so happy that we're going to have a new grandson/nephew/whatever, we would like to help you guys out with some things a baby will need, and we will have cake and put up balloons and take pictures, and persons A, B, C, D, and E will be there, and you will be expected to open the presents and cut the cake for everyone" etc. Or heck, it wouldn't even have to have been so detailed, they could just have said, "we're having a shower for you on Friday afternoon, won't it be fun?"

Then, I would have been prepared and I probably would have enjoyed it somewhat. I wouldn't have looked forward to it necessarily with a huge sense of excitement, but I wouldn't have been caught off guard and probably could have relaxed more. Instead I was on the defensive from the get-go. Why do people insist on surprising people who do not like surprises? I don't understand.

I'm not a big fan of surprises.

I do.

See, I'm pretty cynical and I pay a lot of attention. And what I've noticed is that generally the world is a horrible place.


So what generally surprises me is when someone does something half way descent.

But I'm not surprised often.

Hmmmn.

Is self-created or suprise alone different to being suprised by or with others?

I like some suprises..