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MjrMajorMajor
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24 Oct 2016, 1:16 am

My grandmother is close to passing, and I don't know what I should do. My dad is reaching out to me, but I'm not sure how I can help.



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24 Oct 2016, 5:01 pm

Minus some number. She passed.



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25 Oct 2016, 2:36 am

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25 Oct 2016, 2:41 am

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Transitions... Big ones... I feel like giving in to just feeling empty and daydreaming all day.



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25 Oct 2016, 11:54 am

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Edit : -5



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25 Oct 2016, 12:57 pm

sly279 wrote:
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have you ever heard of making a gratitude list? you think of something that starts with "a" that you're grateful for, then "b", then "c", etc. by the time you get to "z" you usually feel better. i was single for most of my first 52 years (was engaged for a couple of years in my late 20's). when i was not having psychosis, i generally felt that life was worth living. a special relationship can add meaning and joy, but making it the only thing worth living for puts too much pressure on the other person and may drive potential mates away. perhaps some re-prioritizing is in order.

People gain happiness and fulfillment differently. Just as there's no one race, one job for all or one type of sexual choice.

For you and others a relationship might just be an add on that means nothing overall, but for many it's everything and their whole point of existing. Even if I had billions of dollars I'd never be happy alone.
I never said it's the only thing. If I had a relationship but none of my hobbies I'd probably be unhappy too. I can't stand alone I'm not programmed to be alone. I'm a social person. We rely on others for happiness
Others aren't and rely on activities and objects for happiness, all good for them I'd never ask they be like me, why am I continually demanded to be like them. :(

my relationship means a great deal to me. i just don't base my self-worth and entire happiness on it. it's a healthy choice.



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25 Oct 2016, 5:21 pm

That's real easy to say when you have a relationship and it's a sentiment often said by people who have relationships. You hardly if ever hear it from single people who desire relationships.

It's a sentiment of often seen from the haves on any issue or subject.

You just don't get it. Which is lucky for you.

Als again I don't base my entire happiness on it
But let me put it this way would you be happy with a car that only has two wheels and just drags on the other side?



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25 Oct 2016, 6:23 pm

sly279 wrote:
That's real easy to say when you have a relationship and it's a sentiment often said by people who have relationships. You hardly if ever hear it from single people who desire relationships.

It's a sentiment of often seen from the haves on any issue or subject.

You just don't get it. Which is lucky for you.

Als again I don't base my entire happiness on it
But let me put it this way would you be happy with a car that only has two wheels and just drags on the other side?


i was single until i was 52. i was generally happy. your argument doesn't stand up. i was driving a fully functioning car. i just had no passenger. one of the worst times in my life was when i was engaged in the 80's. he hit me several times and threatened to kill me. sometimes single is better.



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25 Oct 2016, 9:04 pm

MjrMajorMajor wrote:
Minus some number. She passed.

sorry for your loss. give your dad a hug when you see him if that's a comfortable thing for you.



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25 Oct 2016, 11:44 pm

cathylynn wrote:
sly279 wrote:
That's real easy to say when you have a relationship and it's a sentiment often said by people who have relationships. You hardly if ever hear it from single people who desire relationships.

It's a sentiment of often seen from the haves on any issue or subject.

You just don't get it. Which is lucky for you.

Als again I don't base my entire happiness on it
But let me put it this way would you be happy with a car that only has two wheels and just drags on the other side?


i was single until i was 52. i was generally happy. your argument doesn't stand up. i was driving a fully functioning car. i just had no passenger. one of the worst times in my life was when i was engaged in the 80's. he hit me several times and threatened to kill me. sometimes single is better.


My point is without a SO my life is incomplete and as long as it's incomplete I'll never be happy. Nothing I do means anything without someone to share it with. For social people being secluded and cut off from human contact is hell freaking hell.

I'd gladly be in a abusive relationship it's probably the only kind I'll ever get. Lots of women seem to be verbally abusive anyways.

I was already phycisally and sexually abused growing up. My life is s**t and having no love only makes it worse. Nothing good in my life matters as I have no one to share it with.

I'm glad you and many aspies are able to be content and happy alone but can't you accept that others can't and never will be happy alone?
Why must everyone have the same way to happiness?
We can have gays and straight and trans etc everyone can be different except in how they find happiness?
You find happiness your way and I'll find it my way. Can't change what and how you find happiness anymore then what gender your attracted to. Same as inoverts and extroverts. There's isn't one and only one way to happiness



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26 Oct 2016, 12:16 am

-10 :cry:



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26 Oct 2016, 1:25 am

cathylynn wrote:
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Minus some number. She passed.

sorry for your loss. give your dad a hug when you see him if that's a comfortable thing for you.


Thank you, I will.

-5. She had preplanned her funeral out of state (my grandfather passed in the late nineties), and I can't travel to attend. I know funerals are for the living, and my parents understand but I feel bad not being there. I don't think she'd mind when I think about it. She had a steely, practical side to her.



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26 Oct 2016, 6:44 am

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28 Oct 2016, 1:19 pm

i think we have a great deal more of control over our own happiness than you give yourself credit for, sly. as abraham lincoln said, "most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."