Should i tell my parents i started cutting myself?

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a week ago i started cutting myself every single day. my thighs look terrible and my wrist cuts are healed but scarred. i hate having autism and im also transgender male to female. my sister was cutting for years but my parents noticed last year and she was in a mental hospital. im scared i dont know what to do i have become addicted to cutting myself i cant stop. i dont even know who to talk to i have no one to talk to. also im NOT emo

Yes.

No. Don't... They won't understand and they will force you into a mental hospital. As long as you aren't collapsing from blood loss I see no problem with it. It's a coping mechanism. I'd rather cut myself than be on severe anti depressants.

right now i think a mental hospital would benefit me.

You may not realize it, but it takes a person of a certain kind of strength to say what you just did, I salute you. Don't forget to thank the psychiatrists at the hospital if you do go, they barely get the thanks they deserve. You've got courage, even if you do not realize it yet. But one thing is, don't cut yourself, maybe try eating deer heart, if it is a blood thing, you never know what might help.

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I have struggled with OCD from time to time, and maybe the same dilemma of whether to resist or give in, and the whole zen issue that if you try not to think about something it can make the idea stronger. Okay, so if I can wind to the place where it's okay to do it and also not to do it, that's a pretty good place to be. Is there something you could press against your arm or leg that would hurt but not cut and maybe give yourself permission to do this sooner?

I hope other people can discuss zen, too. I think it does have some possibilities snd open fields for dealing with these kind of situations.

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Then yes. Absolutely. Just go in knowing that they will not cure you. The role of the psych ward (There are virtually no long-term mental hospitals left in America) is to provide you with a break from destructive behavior, and to introduce you to outpatient resources, such as rehab, a therapist, etc. depending on your particular problem. They teach a few coping mechanisms, but I've never been in one that in any way radically changed my life. It's just to cool your heels.

If you're cutting, then you need help. Period. It's not "just a coping mechanism." It's potentially the most destructive coping mechanism you can come up with, and is often a lead-up to a much more severe and final form of self-harm.

It helps to understand why people cut to understand this. Cutting, just like any pain, provides you with a chemical high. Pain causes endorphins to be released by your body. You may not actively notice it. For me to notice, it took a night of burning myself over and over again, until I was in an almost opium like stupor. And like any drug, the more you get high, the more you need to get high. The release you feel from one or two cuts will soon require four or five, or for you to go deeper. The deeper you go, the greater the chance of permanent muscle damage, infection, or, yes, bleeding out.

You don't have to explain to your parents in detail. Tell them you're losing it, and you need help. Sometimes, a therapist can do it. If it's worse than that, go to the hospital and check yourself in. They're required by law to be confidential.

If not your parents, at least tell someone. Facing this alone will make you feel worse. Telling us here was a great step. If you're worried about how people will react, try children's help phone, or a crisis centre hotline, where it can be anonymous. I hope you are able to get through this alright.

I think you should tell your parents because they will take you to a place where you can get help and in the end you may feel a lot happier.

You're cutting because you're upset at the limitations of your body. I used to do this at the age of 17 and later stopped. Now I can't even recall exactly the mindset that caused me to do it in the first place. The scars create some questions, however. I wish I haven't done it at all, because it is pointless, and bad times pass.

Tell your parents and take advantage of any therapy available. The longer you cut, the more serious the damage.

Tell your parents for sure--you need help, although maybe not admittance into a hospital. If the doctors or your parents do start talking about hospitalization, ask them to check around for a decent hospital. There really are some good ones--and some really bad ones. In the good ones, the staff are respectful, the psychiatrists pay attention to YOUR specific situation, and you can start getting better (although the real work of getting better happens after the hospitalization, when you work with a therapist). If they make a fuss, your parentsor the doctors may be able to get you into a decent place, and it can really help.
Good luck. We're all pulling for you.

You should tell them, cutting yourself can be a severe issue, just be careful if you do go to a hospital.

Yes, you should tell them. Not every parent will freak out and put you n the nuthouse for it. My youngest used to cut. We talked about it. We made a deal. When she wanted to cut she would tell me what she felt and we would try and find a way for her to get her feelings out. If we couldn't find one, she could cut. She never had to cut after that.

If your parents don't understand, then call a hotline. I'm sure there are numbers you can call. There are people who understand, and who can help.

my parents freaked out about my sister