I'm going to start being assertive from now on

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It's Christmas day, and I volunteered to work today even though it was supposed to be my day off because its Thursday. And ever since I came in I've had my supervisor talk down to me. I won't go into detail on what it was all about, but none of it was my fault. I come to work on Christmas day to help out, and they make me feel quite upset as soon as I walk in the door. That's the last time I help them out again. I feel like not doing any more favours at work any more, and just do my contracted hours and that's it.

I remember before I got this job I used to do voluntary work at a charity shop, and they took the piss there too. I gave up a lot of my time to help them out, and I was pleasant and willing, and only 1 boss there used to be grateful for every moment I was there, but she left because the other boss was taking the piss with her too. And so this other boss used to just moan at me about something every day, give me the grotty jobs what they knew I didn't like, and didn't even get me a card for my birthday or anything. So I walked out without even telling them, which they didn't like.

So I have definitely learnt my lesson. I will help out my family, my partner, and close friends, but that's it. I am not going out of my way to do favours for people who just take the piss. I know I will get called selfish and everything else, but I am becoming less sensitive now because I am not going to be hurt any more.

Rant over.

I was planning to write something, and give a tip of a movie. Then I read that you're a female and for some reason all of that desire vanished instantaneously.

Most people are like dogs, trying to get to the top of the pack at the expense of any they feel are lesser than they.
Why change yourself?, do you admire them and want to be like them? Stay as you are but dont cast your pearls before swine, go and find someone who does appreciate your willingness to help out.
Me, when I get the time once I retire from work, I'm going to do voluntary work helping Toads cross the road, they will never be nasty to you.

Good!
You deserve better than to be talked down to and treated badly by people who you're giving up your time to help.

You don't always have to be "assertive" in order to not be a pushover. You can learn from this and it will help you out, a lot. Work always asks me for favors, staying late and working typical days off. If they pay me accordingly, I'll happily do it. But I sure as hell am not going in for free.

Yesterday night they asked me to return a rental trailer in unacceptable condition. They pressured me, telling me it will cost 250$ extra dollars to the company if it sits in their yard over christmas. I told em too bad, I'm not taking something down the road with a flat tire and a missing (not out, completely gone) brake light. The old me would've just done it. So, I guess you can learn to be assertive.