My family sucks

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I visited them for Christmas. The first thing my step mom said to me was, "What, have you not had time to cut your hair?" She wasn't smiling so I don't think it was meant to be a joke. The reason this makes me mad is that my little brothers take these kinds of statements as an opportunity to be mean to me, saying things like, "You're hair looks like crap!" and similar things. Not that I care about their personal opinion of my haircut, it's more the fact that they just can't seem to be nice to me. All they ever want to do is tease me and then make me feel weird about not wanting to be around them. My older brother said I was being "antisocial" (not directly to me, he was talking to a friend who was asking about me). First of all, he doesn't know what antisocial means apparently. But also, why the heck do they always blame me?

Why don't they ever think, "Hey, maybe he doesn't like being around us because all we do is tease him!" I was singing and my older brother said, "So I see you still suck at singing." I know I'm not bad, but I do have a sort of immature sounding voice and I am also kind of sensitive to comments about my singing since I practice A LOT. I think he was just joking, but still, why can't anyone just say something nice? They know I don't like being teased in general, yet they do it anyway.

And they generally just do not treat me with respect. I was playing a video game with my little brothers, and we were getting ready to watch a movie with the whole family afterwards. Well, my older brother and his wife both just walked right in front of me with no warning, and I got kind of irritated and said, "Can't you at least warn me that you're going to be in the way?" and then his wife said, "Oh, calm down. And scoot over, there's no room to sit." So I did, I moved over as far as I could, and then she said, "I told you to make some room." "I did, this is as far as I can go without squishing my brothers." And then she shoved me, twice! Not hard or anything, but enough to make me rage quit the game and just let her take the stupid couch. I was moving to the other side of the room to sit alone, not saying anything, and then my brother put up the stupid leg rest when I was right in front of him, and it sprang out and hit my legs while I was walking. I was also really hot because they had the heater on down there, so I was already getting kind of overloaded, and I just lost it for a bit and yelled, "Guys, stop freaking pushing me!"

Then they just start laughing at me, and my older brother says (still laughing), "Nobody pushed you." I told him, "Yes, 3 times!" His stupid wife pushed me twice, and then my brother pushed me with the stupid spring-loaded leg rest. He continued to say I was making it up, and they were all laughing at me. Jerks.

And then they think that I'm being antisocial.

My dad was the only one that was actually being nice to me. He took me out to eat, and he also told me that I probably know what he wants me to do with my life, but that he's not going to bother me about it anymore because he wants me to make my own decisions. So I'm glad for that at least, up to this point he hasn't ever said anything like that. But the rest of them are still jerks to me, and I don't enjoy visiting.

It's so weird, you can leave home, make your own life, be your own person but at Christmas someone in your family always knows how to push your buttons and your suddenly a kid dealing with your siblings with the same dynamics as you did a couple of decades ago.

Its nice though that your dad chatted with you at an adult level and made some time for just the two of you.

Sorry about the rough Christmas, buddy!

I'm glad your dad took you out for dinner.

My older brother's close to 60 YEARS OLD, and he still treats me like crap.

Just think about your future, my friend.

Have you done more research into the speech pathology field (sorry to be an adult nag! LOL)

A little, I'm a bit preoccupied at the moment though. My other grandpa (mom's dad) offered to help me pay off the remaining balance on my car and then move out to be closer to my mom and sister. So at the moment I'm trying to figure out the details of how that is going to work.

He was saying I could have my mom get a plane ticket to make the trip with me so I won't be driving alone. He also suggested that I might just want to sell my car after paying it off and get a plane ticket myself, so I wouldn't have to drive at all, as the conditions might be rough. I don't really want to do that though, I like this car and I also don't want to have to go through the stress of finding another vehicle. That would be a 3rd vehicle purchase in less than 6 months. I'd rather just take my chances with the drive there. I'm not a great driver, but I'm not an idiot either, so I think as long as I'm prepared I shouldn't have a problem.

But back to your question, I think I'm just going to send an email to the universities and colleges around there asking about it, I'm sure they could help me figure out what kinds of programs are available.