Cyberstalked my ex...

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Wow the regret is real. Two weeks later and he's already moved on. Never again.

You are right, "Never again!" Never fixate on someone when they are ignoring you!

Being fixated on somebody is unhealthy and it can feel like your whole world is bleak with that special person gone, so I can sympathize to an extent.

I've fixated on two ex-aides. I know the feeling of wanting to make things right. You just want to be loved or at least heard and the person isn't hearing it. It's heartbreaking, but chasing people who don't want to be chased just gets you legal drama and no happy ending comes out of it if it continues to the point of a restraining order being put in place. For violating that can be met with dire consequences, as I found out when I simply tried to say I was sorry. And I had have a lot of drama to deal with over these two caregivers I've frequently posted about, so I know how serious a stalking matter can be taken in court.

Well, not actual stalking haha. I think I'm starting to conclude that I never actually cared for him in the way that I thought I had. I was just borderline obsessed (probably not even borderline...) with him for those nine months and not in your typical romantic fashion. Being that we are both on the spectrum, our relationship was very odd and developed disproportionately. I never felt the need to have true emotional closeness with him nor did I desire physical intimacy anywhere outside of my fantasies.

I've had fixations on friends in the past, but I guess the difference was that this was reciprocated and so it was easy to confuse just exactly what I was feeling. It's all hard to accept. I've not had a true special interest in over nine months and I'm hoping that one develops soon enough to fill the void.

If he's your ex why does it matter how long he takes to move on, once people break up they have no obligation to each other anymore...unless they are living together or something and need to work out who's moving out, who's staying or if their both moving out.

Probably best not to cyberstalk them if it upsets you.

I haven't bothered to look up any of my exes, from facebook or through friends, I don't know what they're up to and quite honestly I see nothing good from finding out such things, I just don't care. There's a reason they have the label "ex" and a very good reason at that.

It sucks to learn how little you can mean to someone, though.