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31 Jul 2010, 8:05 pm

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Spazzergasm, if she's a close enough friend and you don't want to lose her friendship, just be honest with her. Come right out and ask her if she's bi-sexual.

Of course you'd have to pick the right time and ask her delicately.

Also be honest with her about your sexuality. Hopefully you can both have a laugh about it. You seem to have an amazing sense of humour.


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31 Jul 2010, 8:05 pm

Less awkward than surprise lesbian sex. Not as hot, though.


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31 Jul 2010, 8:06 pm

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Suurrreee.

Well, I have to go to bed. *grumpy look* Goodnight. I am wearing shorts to bed.
g'night :)


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31 Jul 2010, 8:11 pm

Will surprise lesbian sex happen???? 8O :(



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31 Jul 2010, 8:13 pm

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Will surprise lesbian sex happen???? 8O :(
oh, i just noticed you're 18 now. Happy belated birthday :)


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31 Jul 2010, 8:13 pm

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Will surprise lesbian sex happen???? 8O :(


Unlikely... She's your friend. I'd doubt she'd rape you.


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31 Jul 2010, 8:17 pm

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Will surprise lesbian sex happen???? 8O :(
oh, i just noticed you're 18 now. Happy belated birthday :)

LOL


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31 Jul 2010, 8:35 pm

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I have a friend over for almost a week...And for some unshakable reason she's giving me lesbian vibes...It's scaring me, and making me not able to enjoy our time together. :(
Am I hopefully wrong? She has a boyfriend, so she shouldn't, but she does.


Lots of women with AS give off lesbian vibes even though they're straight. Could it just be that?

Even if she were really into you, at least you should be somewhat flattered. Just comment on something eluding to the fact how much you like men.



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31 Jul 2010, 8:37 pm

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Spazzergasm wrote:
Will surprise lesbian sex happen???? 8O :(


Unlikely... She's your friend. I'd doubt she'd rape you.

I agree with Zara... :lmao: I'm sorry to be finding this hilarious...my wild imagination knows no limits!!


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31 Jul 2010, 8:42 pm

As a bisexual woman that's undoubtedly made more than her fare share of women uncomfortable... be direct with her. If you're wrong about her sexuality, no big deal. If you're right then she deserves to know you are not interested.

Also, don't assume that just because she's into women that she'll be into you.


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31 Jul 2010, 9:00 pm

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As a bisexual woman that's undoubtedly made more than her fare share of women uncomfortable... be direct with her. If you're wrong about her sexuality, no big deal. If you're right then she deserves to know you are not interested.

Also, don't assume that just because she's into women that she'll be into you.

Yes I agree, as another bisexual,


nothing scarier the lesbian vibes :wink:



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01 Aug 2010, 12:23 am

I've been both the victim and the (unintentional) perpetrator of the dreaded "lesbian vibes". Like others have said, if you're really close friends, you should be able to talk to her about anything and it shouldn't affect your relationship in a negative way. I know it might feel awkward, but we all have to deal with awkward conversations sometimes.

And don't let the guys' comments on here bother you - they're just teasing you to get a reaction. :)



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01 Aug 2010, 12:28 am

IdahoRose wrote:
I've been both the victim and the (unintentional) perpetrator of the dreaded "lesbian vibes". Like others have said, if you're really close friends, you should be able to talk to her about anything and it shouldn't affect your relationship in a negative way. I know it might feel awkward, but we all have to deal with awkward conversations sometimes.

And don't let the guys' comments on here bother you - they're just teasing you to get a reaction. :)


yup, spazzergasm understands (i'd hope) that i just have a dirty sense of humor :P


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01 Aug 2010, 1:13 am

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EW.

But how do I make it stop?
I have to share a bed with her...:S


I expect there are plenty of people on WP (male and female) who would love to meet your friend :wink:


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01 Aug 2010, 1:40 am

You have to ask yourself.. how would you feel if you had a male friend and they were coming onto you a bit and wanted to sleep in the same bed with you? Just because it is a female it is no different. I have slept in the same bed as female friends and they didnt come onto me. A friend will respect your boundaries. So dont feel any guilt, noone of any gender should make you feel obligated to get together with them.


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01 Aug 2010, 1:49 am

Oh my - you little Spazzmanian Devil you :P

No - I'm not going there, you know better.
Anywho, regardless of what happens or not between two adults is where it should stay.
You are not a mean person for saying NO. At the same time, you are not a bad person for having sexual fears, doubts, curiosities, adventure and so-on. You would hardly be human if you didn't.
What concerns me about the situation here, is that after all the planning and time spent prior to the actual visit, this comes up now.
Seeing the writing on the wall / reading between the lines are abilities obtained through experience alone. Perhaps this can be a good learning experience for you regardless of what happens. I really doubt anyone will like you more or less one way or the other. But people are concerned with your future safety and well-being, regardless of the fun we try to poke at you. Thing is, if we knew you didn't enjoy it, we wouldn't bother. :P
Just a side-note, the Haven might be a more proper setting for such truly sensitive concerns.
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