Are you better liked when people think you're male?

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You're all lady Boo.

I still think gender is very superficial for me. It's about as superficial as my hair color. I don't think it truly affects my personality. If you identify any of my female traits it's probably comfirmation bias. I have plenty of male traits as well, but they're probably invisible to you because you know I'm female.
It definitely affects the way people treat me, social rules and my life experiences. I sometimes prefer to be treated like a man and I sometimes prefer to be treated like a woman.

Depending on the what I'm talking about I choose what gender to present as. On here I present as a woman because I signed up as one and its relevant to this topic. When I talk about my dating or social life I sometimes prefer to present as male.

When I present as female I have to deal with people obsessing about me being mentally ill and give me irrelevant advice. When I present as male I notice people understand me way better. If I'm annoyed about my lack of experience with girls and social awkwardness other guys in my situation will sympathize with me and give me advice.

If I present as female people will tell me to date guys instead. They'll also tell me BS about girls being higher value when they're virgins. Since I give zero f***s about my attractiveness to men that's just meaningless to me. Since I'm interested in girls it's easier to just get advice for men.

I also like to get a different perspective on my personality. When I present as female people think I'm mentally ill, introverted, boring, should be dating men and sexy. They also have no clue when I'm joking or being sarcastic. When they think I'm male they think I'm nerdy and funny. Men can also be mentally ill without it overshadowing the rest of their personality.

I notice that when I'm female there's always one thing people like to pick on. It could be my gender, age, sexual orientation, not smiling in pictures or showing any sign of emotions. I know this whole thread makes me seem super duper female.

I'm just hoping that one day gender won't affect how people are treated or perceived.

I still think gender is very superficial for me.

If I present as female people will tell me to date guys instead.

Since I'm interested in girls it's easier to just get advice for men.

As for me, I tend to talk "rougher" to a male, and "less tough" to a female.

With guys, I like to talk about sports and stuff. And girls. There's a mode of conversation which is different among guys than among women. Guys don't like to show their "soft" side to other guys--it's been that way since Time began.

Just like women like to talk about guys amongst themselves, guys like to talk about girls, too. Both "objectify" to a certain extent. I don't get involved in conversations, though, which talk bad about women in general; I shy away from those, or try to change the subject.

I like women to be women, and guys to be guys. I'm attracted more to a woman who looks like a woman than one who looks gender-neutral (though I don't preclude myself from finding a soulmate who is gender-neutral). If somebody feels androgynous, and it comes naturally to him/her, so be it. I don't like forced androgyny, though--merely because of irritation with the binary gender system.