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23 May 2010, 4:57 pm

The worse you try and make yourself look wont get rid of creeps, like someone said already, its possible if you look worse you get more because they think they have a chance.

Confidence gets rid of them.



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23 May 2010, 5:01 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
The worse you try and make yourself look wont get rid of creeps, like someone said already, its possible if you look worse you get more because they think they have a chance.

Confidence gets rid of them.

Agreed! they think they have a chance, because they equate lack of concern about one's appearance, with lowered standards in general. I have found that the more confidence I exude, the less creepy types feel comfortable with approaching me!


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23 May 2010, 5:01 pm

I was at a stoplight the other day and there were some men with buckets approaching cars for some charity or another. I had my sunglasses on and no expression on my face but as one of them cames toward me he suddenly stopped and backed away. I guess I come by it naturally. :lol:



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23 May 2010, 7:38 pm

Just something I whipped up.

You can be the most visually appealing woman in the world, way above creeps standards, but if you hold yourself the wrong way, they will still see you as a fragile target, an easy opening.

Confident women who show it are not approached by creeps, because they know they will be put in their place. Self conscious women are more geared to be polite and give in to creeps.

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24 May 2010, 6:17 am

Ugh I attract ALL the creeps. Don't worry, we all experience it.
I get rid of them by generally having a 'don't eff with me' aura. I've heard it from many friends that on first meetings I seem very intimidating. I've learned to use that to my advantage =D



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24 May 2010, 6:24 am

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I seem to only attract losers and creeps... perhaps it's like that for most women. Perhaps creeps just have a lower threshold than normal people. But it really bothers me when people like that talk to me without having any connection to me from before. It makes me really really uncomfortable and ruins my day. I also get depressed and start wondering what is wrong with me. So I want it to stop. How can I make myself look unapproachable to them? My best friend thinks it is because of my boobs (come on they're not THAT big), and me having red hair and somehow people judge that as attention-seeking or something. Modest clothing doesn't help. My friend can stand right besides me with both higher skirt and more cleavage and I still get the creeps. It's affecting my self-esteem.

What can I do?

Could it be something about my weight or appearance. I'm kind of chubby. Perhaps I'm in some sort of limbo where they are interested but think I am desperate?? I usually wear nice clothing, but I guess sometimes I don't look very well put together because I don't use a lot of time on my hair and my face looks spotty (again why are they hitting on me). So.. does that make me approachable?


How to look unapproachable? I apparently look constantly grumpy or mean, and i used to wear retro punk/goth clothes and that scared people away. I can't help you any more than that though I'm sorry, just remember it's not your fault and try to ignore them, tell them to bugger off or try and creep them out more...,



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24 May 2010, 7:02 am

Cad's note on being more creeping them out even more may have a good bit of value. If all else fails, start making up stuff to sound really creepy, like perhaps talking about how you have several dozen pet rocks, and all about their names/personalities/etc. Again, that's if all else fails.

Confidence should be on the front line of your defenses, as has been illustrated by others in this thread. Followed making a point of seeming as bitchy as possible and ignoring them, then telling them loudly to GTFO, or "Leave me the hell alone!" usually. Adding "the hell", or some other emphasizing expletive (e.g. "f*****g") really drives this point home enough to make the statement much more effective.

Probably alternative things like creeping them out more should be reserved for when the creep isn't a stranger, and has some some authority over you, or ability to damage your reputation or get your friends mad at you, that you think they might try to use in response to too harsh a turn-down. So not that often....


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26 May 2010, 1:34 pm

Nah, nah, that's not it. Most aspie girls think that losers and creeps only talk to them. Because you're alone and/or lonely, they have access to you whether it be a park bench or train seat or whatever. Could you imagine a creep or loser trying to approach a bunch of loud NT women? The guy will get beat up. Creeps and losers may have scored with loner women before so they'll try it again and again. They'll approach any lone woman. That's why most societies dictate that women NEVER be alone in public. I actually witnessed this total "a-hole" approach this utterly beautiful woman because she was alone on a bench at a subway stop in NYC. She started screaming and the cops came and escorted him out. Anybody and everybody as long as you possess a vagina will be approached by this kind of vermin. It's not you. I have a young, heavy-set, co-worker who says that foreign guys (immigrants to the U.S.) always try to pick her up. Why? Because she's by herself all the time, at the wrongest times and at the wrongest places - bus stations, train stations, shopping mall coffee stalls, etc...
They're just simply the same creepy guys but from other countries.
FURTHERMORE AND MUCH MORE IMPORTANTLY: COPS/DETECTIVES ALWAYS SAY THAT THE RUDEST WOMEN WILL BE THE LAST TO GET RAPED. iT'S THE GIRLS WHO ARE ALWAYS TAUGHT TO BE NICE THAT GET RAPED. BY NICE, I MEAN WALKING SOMEONE TO A DESTINATION WHEN THEY SEEM TO BE LOST, SPARING CHANGE OR CIGARETTES, GIVING SOMEONE THE TIME FROM YOUR WRISTWATCH. COPS SAY THAT YOU SHOULD BE AS GRUFF AS POSSIBLE AND ALWAYS LOOK LIKE YOU'RE IN A HURRY TO GET SOMEWHERE. STRANGERS ARE MEANT TO BE AVOIDED JUST AS MUCH AS YOU AVOIDED THEM AS A SMALL GIRL. NOW THAT YOU'RE GROWN, YOU STILL MUST FOLLOW THE SAME RULES. DO NOT TALK TO STRANGERS, DO NOT ACCEPT A RIDE IN A CAR, DO NOT ACCEPT A DRINK OR EVEN GUM. IF THESE RULES KEPT YOU SAFE AS A KID, THEY'LL KEEP YOU SAFE AS AN ADULT WOMAN. SO STAY SAFE LADIES!! !!



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26 May 2010, 3:35 pm

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FURTHERMORE AND MUCH MORE IMPORTANTLY: COPS/DETECTIVES ALWAYS SAY THAT THE RUDEST WOMEN WILL BE THE LAST TO GET RAPED. iT'S THE GIRLS WHO ARE ALWAYS TAUGHT TO BE NICE THAT GET RAPED. BY NICE, I MEAN WALKING SOMEONE TO A DESTINATION WHEN THEY SEEM TO BE LOST, SPARING CHANGE OR CIGARETTES, GIVING SOMEONE THE TIME FROM YOUR WRISTWATCH. COPS SAY THAT YOU SHOULD BE AS GRUFF AS POSSIBLE AND ALWAYS LOOK LIKE YOU'RE IN A HURRY TO GET SOMEWHERE. STRANGERS ARE MEANT TO BE AVOIDED JUST AS MUCH AS YOU AVOIDED THEM AS A SMALL GIRL. NOW THAT YOU'RE GROWN, YOU STILL MUST FOLLOW THE SAME RULES. DO NOT TALK TO STRANGERS, DO NOT ACCEPT A RIDE IN A CAR, DO NOT ACCEPT A DRINK OR EVEN GUM. IF THESE RULES KEPT YOU SAFE AS A KID, THEY'LL KEEP YOU SAFE AS AN ADULT WOMAN. SO STAY SAFE LADIES!! !!

Hate to say it, but it is true. I have gotten to the point where I am not nice anymore. To creeps like this, I mean. Pure self preservation. I was recently waiting at a bus stop with a full bag of groceries. This drunken guy started hitting on me. I bluntly told him to leave me the f**k alone, or I would call 911. I held up my cell phone as I said this. He started slurring more comments, and I pushed one number. He scurried away. I figured, since he chose to get drunk, and then made the decision to bother people, why should I be nice? What exactly had he done, to earn nice from me?


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27 May 2010, 8:00 pm

hartzofspace wrote:
RightGalaxy wrote:
FURTHERMORE AND MUCH MORE IMPORTANTLY: COPS/DETECTIVES ALWAYS SAY THAT THE RUDEST WOMEN WILL BE THE LAST TO GET RAPED. iT'S THE GIRLS WHO ARE ALWAYS TAUGHT TO BE NICE THAT GET RAPED. BY NICE, I MEAN WALKING SOMEONE TO A DESTINATION WHEN THEY SEEM TO BE LOST, SPARING CHANGE OR CIGARETTES, GIVING SOMEONE THE TIME FROM YOUR WRISTWATCH. COPS SAY THAT YOU SHOULD BE AS GRUFF AS POSSIBLE AND ALWAYS LOOK LIKE YOU'RE IN A HURRY TO GET SOMEWHERE. STRANGERS ARE MEANT TO BE AVOIDED JUST AS MUCH AS YOU AVOIDED THEM AS A SMALL GIRL. NOW THAT YOU'RE GROWN, YOU STILL MUST FOLLOW THE SAME RULES. DO NOT TALK TO STRANGERS, DO NOT ACCEPT A RIDE IN A CAR, DO NOT ACCEPT A DRINK OR EVEN GUM. IF THESE RULES KEPT YOU SAFE AS A KID, THEY'LL KEEP YOU SAFE AS AN ADULT WOMAN. SO STAY SAFE LADIES!! !!

Hate to say it, but it is true. I have gotten to the point where I am not nice anymore. To creeps like this, I mean. Pure self preservation. I was recently waiting at a bus stop with a full bag of groceries. This drunken guy started hitting on me. I bluntly told him to leave me the f**k alone, or I would call 911. I held up my cell phone as I said this. He started slurring more comments, and I pushed one number. He scurried away. I figured, since he chose to get drunk, and then made the decision to bother people, why should I be nice? What exactly had he done, to earn nice from me?


Idiot was probably trying to used drunkenness as an excuse. He bloody well knew what he was doing or he wouldn't run away, he'd just continue to stumble and slur.