Worried about boyfriend's girl best friend

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Well good luck and I hope you don't have future problems with her.

Bracing myself for later... Boyfriend's on his way back from a job interview, friend has been nagging him by text but he wants us to tackle this together because he knows she'll mess with him! She hasn't got any dirt on me. 2 hours time she'll be having her temper tantrum and being rotten to both of us and I'm going to get ANGRY... Looks like she's going to explode via text.

Wow that woman's unbelievable... She was so manipulative and nearly had him fooled again, really glad I was there! He texted her and told her he couldn't go on knowing that she had a problem with me any more and knowing that she'd treated me badly, then she went on about how nice she was to me for the first few days of Germany, then he said it wasn't about Germany it was about her not wanting to get along with me, then she said ok I admit I have a problem and us being friends is probably not going to work but can we end it without any animosity, then he said ok, then she said "give me a call if you ever need me ok?" which REALLY pissed me off, cos she was essentially trying to get permission to be nasty to me but be friends with him! And then I pointed that out to him before he did anything to play into her hands, so he said he doesn't need someone who won't get along with someone he loves and that he couldn't take any more lies and accusations, then she said that that wasn't fair because she'd tried her best (lie) and she'd been a good friend (lie) and she'd wanted to get along with us both (lie) and a bunch of other stuff that was basically the truth turned upside-down! Classsic narcissism. He replied "Almost none of that was true (she mentioned Germany again)" but I can't remember the rest of his text. Anyway, she got grumpy about being accused rightly of her nastiness and signed off in a huff. The whole thing was both hilarious and enraging.

Now I need to get my boyfriend not to feel bad about it and to ignore any nasty stuff she sends to him... He has to go through a whole recovery process now... I want him to go hang out with his other friends, she seems to have convinced him that he's a bad person and that he has no friends. He's a wonderful person with lots of friends, all he has to do is go meet up with them more... Guess he should block her from Facebook like I have or she'll use that as another means of bullying, because even those who aren't friends can send messages...

If he is serious about this he will cut all contact with her.

Yup he's blocked her from online stuff and is going to ignore her completely from now. She's just dangerous to get involved with and he understands that now. She's damaged his self-esteem a lot so I'm looking forward to seeing him coming back to himself now that he's free from her! We're both more relaxed and happy already Hope she doesn't go messing about, like spreading rumours or something, but that doesn't bother me too much as I've never given her any dirt and my boyfriend's only been too good to her. Plus the people who really know us won't believe her, and she's quite unpopular anyways. Fingers crossed!