Aspie females and dating

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It sometimes frustrates me that whenever articles discuss autism/aspergers and dating its always about aspie men and NT females. The only thing Ive ever read addressing aspie females and dating is a section out of aspergirls. I cant really draw out much perspective from that cause female aspies/NT male relationships are much different then aspie male/NT female relationships. Or I would think.

I just typed in a google search for autism and dating. And all the references were about AS male/NT female.

I don't know any Aspie women in real life. Perhaps they only exist on the Interweb.

Ditto. Perhaps those who exist in the RW are less affected by AS than their male counterparts ... ?

Rudy Simone is coming out with a whole book that's meant to teach NT men how to understand their Aspergirl partner.

There's an excerpt here.

oh sweet. I'd wanna read the book. I kinda wanted a book/articles, directed at aspie females in how to navigate the dating world.

it frustrates me also. but be careful how you present that topic if you venture into L & D with it, or you will be bombarded with men arguing that they have it worse or even that women should have no problem in this area, especially if they're attractive enough to somehow lure in sex partners. some understand, but some are too bitter to recognize that we might have similar issues, that ultimately it is about relating to others or being able to determine what behavior is expected of us or what result anything has that we do or say. and there is also the added safety issue with women who can't read someone's intention properly. it's no small issue.



great news. i hope men actually read it. i'll leave it surreptitiously everywhere .. with pages propped open and highlighted ..

I'm going to get it as soon as it's out.
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I'm having an even harder time with it - I can't find anything for female aspies with aspie partners. Us females are different in some ways than males, even when we're aspies, and aspie/aspie books are even focused on the male side of the relationship.

The Female AS/Male NT book will be a good thing to exist though. I've been sad that it didn't exist.

me too! where do i find out about this book?

Yuck.

I don't relate to the excerpt.

Maybe the book will have other chapters more relevant, but I hope the book doesn't center around someone that is 'controlling'.

I am finding the same experience, while seeing an Aspergers male, who seems to be far more severe than myself in some areas, whereas I struggle more in different areas...communication seems to be almost impossible.

This book is a follow-up to her "22 Things a Woman Must Know: If She Loves a Man With Asperger's Syndrome." I'm guessing that the excerpt is the only section that covers control issues, and that there will be 21 other entirely different topics covered.

i thought the same thing. i liked her books Aspergirls and Aspergers on the Job. but this is the wrong thing to put forward first from the new book. and "control freak" was a bad choice of words on her part.

Maybe you just didn't recognize them...
As a female aspie, I rarely go out, but if I do, I'd never risk to let anyone find out anything personal about me. When you grow up as a female aspie you're in all likelihood not aware that you even are an aspie, and your chances of being diagnosed - as long as it still counts - are next to nowhere (at least outside of Australia).
So please cut us some slack.