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How do you tell if a man likes you?
I just can't tell unless I'm watching a movie or the guys is making it really obvious, ie he's staring at my chest and talking about wanting to f***.

If I like a girl, I find it hard to not keep looking at her, (face).

Depends on the guy, me, I just tend to have a genuine interest in listening to them and try my best not to scare her away with my internal nerdiness. I find it hard to be anything but myself, but I am not very average. Some guys will look at you like a piece of meat and do creepy things like lick their lips and stare at you. Some guys have the nice guy bug and think they can do nice things for you and you'll get in bed with them (which is kind of the opposite of a nice guy wouldn't you think?). Some guys will act like they don't give a crap about you to try and pull you over to them.

I hear with normal people extended eye contact means interest :/ and pointing their body towards you when you're talking or doing something together, mirroring body language.

I am not good at reading social cues. A man has to come up to me and say what he feels to me directly. There was a young man at the university who was saying that he was in love with a lesbian. I found out later that he was talking about me. I am not a lesbian, at least not 100% one. I guess kept staring at girls as if I were in love with them, so he got frustrated.

I can't really tell either... But I've been told by family that the examples you're using (only staring at your chest or talking about wanting to f**k) aren't signs that they like you in a safe or healthy way, but that they're probably looking to use you or hurt you.

I can tell if he tells me.
Hooray for social obliviousness!

I learned in psychology class that when a guy/girl finds someone else attractive, their pupils dilate a bit. I've honestly never tried this, but I want to sometime. I don't usually pay attention to people's pupils, even when I look them in the eye, but I don't think it would be that hard to do. You would just have to pay extra attention, and it wouldn't require creepy staring either. Otherwise, I can sometimes tell if a guy likes a girl, if he acts a lot different around her than with other girls.

As someone who seems to be completely blind for fine nuances of body languages: When he tells me with words. ^^

I never know for sure until he tells me or makes a move on me, but I can get a pretty good idea sometimes. I guess that he likes me if he flirts with me, spends a lot of time near me, or tries to get competitive with other men around me.

I usually keep to myself until I feel comfortable enough to tell the woman or know the woman likes me. Yeah im kinda weird like that.

I think I can tell, but I second-guess. This is partly low-self-esteem, partly fear, partly the AS.

I would say that it's how they make you feel.

A lot of men give out that flirt or attraction vibe; lots of single men get carried away.

But if it's someone you like too; how do they make you feel? And do you feel respected as well?

Try not to second-guess. Looks and vibes are subtle but significant.