Sexism against guys

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sexism is wrong...end of line.

There's a difference between noticing and staring. Personally I'm uncomfortable with being stared at, regardless of whether there's a sexualized component to it or not. It makes me wonder if I'm being terribly gauche and if I'm about to be made fun of (it does happen). If there's a sexualized component it reminds me of being sexually abused when I was younger.

Basically, when you stare at someone without regard to how that person might feel about it (and different people feel different ways, regardless of whether they're male or female), you're dehumanizing them. When you look, but take into account they might not be ok with it, and look away if it turns out they're not ok, you're being considerate.

Please be considerate. Too much staring can drive people away. And sometimes that's what the staring is for.

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I've read that men don't stare at other men unless they're trying to provoke a fight. True? If so, how would staring at women be any different?

to be honest remarks are kinda justified also. I can't really think of any reason women wear clothing like that unless they want the attention. Looking nice isn't all about revealing.

Also I don't honestly think a lot of guys are doing it to be insulting, some might think they're complimenting you by whistling. Its when they get really sexist about it - then it's wrong..

http://www.girlslearndifferently.com/classroombias.html
http://www.unicef.org/teachers/learner/gender.htm
http://www-personal.umich.edu/~eandersn ... html#SSK91
quote:
Although students perceive that teachers compliment, pay more attention to, and call on girls more often than boys, objective measures of teacher interaction, reported in numerous studies, reveal that teachers tend to favor boys on these criteria (Sadker, Sadker, and Klein 1991, 294–304).

Haliphron, if you don't like being stared at, why do you think it's ok to stare at other people?

Furthermore, why do you think that it's ok to physically intimidate someone who's smaller than you in order to alter their behavior? (P.S. she knows that if you do "slap her around," she could have you arrested for assault and battery and stick your ass in jail for years).

To the posters above: why do you assume, when you see a woman dressed nicely, that she wants attention from you? She may be on her way to a date with her boyfriend. She may have a recital after class. She may be dressed nicely for any one of a million other reasons than to get your attention.

"Stop staring at me, I hate it when people stare. STUTTERING STANLEY, STUTTERING STANLEY..."

There was one time in school when I actually said that in order to get this jerk to stop staring at me, and it worked.

Two points, though:
first, you are assuming that it's easy to tell the difference between a man staring because he wants a confrontation, and a man staring because he's attracted.

second, even if the subject can tell the difference, you're assuming that no threat is implied by a man who is staring due to attraction. A stare due to attraction implies that the man cannot keep his mind off of the subject, that he is willing to interrupt his normal business in order to stare at the subject. That, in fact, he is out of his own control. If he stares for a few seconds and then gets a grip on himself, that's one thing; if he keeps on staring, or keeps on looking back, that's a threat. A man who is not controlling himself, combined with sexual attraction towards a specific woman, is a legitimate threat.