How Can You tell if a guy likes you?

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How do you know if he likes you, or if he finds you attractive?

When a man finds me attractive, he either runs and hides (fine by me), or he looks me up and down and that certain energy comes off him (very annoying at work).

If he likes me he talks to me like I'm a person and it feels safe and relaxed.

The Rules says that if a man is interested, really interested, he'll let you know. And if he doesn't say anything, he's probably just not that interested, shy or not. Probably true.

However, there are times I have wondered. There have been guys who have been nice to me but they didn't say anything, and it never occurred to me they might be interested until it was too late. One guy was interested, but didn't say anything and I only knew because he was sad when I moved away. Oops. Another guy - I honestly thought he was gay because he didn't leer, but then a couple of years later he was talking about his girlfriend. Oops again.

At the time it didn't occur to me that they might make good boyfriends, but looking back I would probably have enjoyed dating them. I wonder if it wasn't meant to be and they could tell, or, if I had shown some interest, would they have asked me out? Hard to say. In the future I will keep my eye out for guys like that and see what happens.

Definitely stay away from the leerers. I can tell you that much for sure.

look down. if you see a lump starting to form in the guy's trouser's, then chances are he likes you .

I am so painfully oblivious that I assume that most guys don't find me attractive...and I am shocked to death on the rare occasion when it is bluntly made obvious that they do.

I'm not very good with any of this, but I have talked at length with NT friends about this (and quizzed them on all the confusing bits) and I conclude that when it comes to long-time friends and romance, NT's are just as clueless as us.

Both people involved are scared to embarrass themselves and lose the friend, and so one gives even subtler clues than usual, and then other isn't sure whether they're picking up the clues right or not, and so only reacts very subtly, and nothing happens (until perhaps alcohol intervenes).

Or perhaps one feels love, and so searches every interaction for clues of the other's love, and misinterprets out of pure hope.

Anyway, I have heard of many other scenarios, but the general message is that this is tricky for anyone, so I'd say no one could be sure, but you may as well try and see what happens, if you really like him.

A guy likes you when he is beating the crap out of you because you were dumb enough to beleie he really likes me because he's nice to you. With nice guys, you can tell a guy likes you when you just want to get rid of him. NOthing is a crushing as seeing a fine woman go off with a douchebag, especially when you know how he's going to treat her, and that she couldn've gotten a guy to make her feel good in mind and body.