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11 Jan 2009, 1:10 pm

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I don't think men are instinctively or genetically violent but you only have to look at the way society wants boys to be raised and educated and you can easily see where the aggression comes from. The same situation applies to the way societies want girls to be educated.


Why the hell not? Chimps are violent. Bonobos, can come to blows but tend to regulate their aggression with sex. The two groups don't meet, even though they live on opposite sides of a river. If they did there would probably be a lot of violence.

The problem is this is turning into a point scoring exercise rather than just simply looking at behaviour. Men this, women that and so on.

We have never been top predator even now we are not top predator without technology to give the upper hand, but there have been plenty of environments in our past the demanded more aggression. Arguably we need less of it now, but still our environment is very varied, there is much disparity in the human population. So we do still have things to fight over.



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11 Jan 2009, 3:28 pm

I meant violent and agressiveness just for the sake of being or doing so. There will always be a time where agressiveness may be necessary but it's usually provoked as is violence.


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11 Jan 2009, 3:37 pm

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45 views and no takers so I have to assume that there aren't to many women on here who suscribe to her theories about the development of mindkind.


hey garyww... i saw her pic and your note about her on your special people page on your website. I have not heard of her here in australia. but i will start doing a little fossicking and reasearch on her...as is my way with things.



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11 Jan 2009, 3:45 pm

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I don't know much about Goddess Theories, but they seem to be bashed as fruity New Age Occult fantasies as the stereotype. How much do you know about whether Neolithic women actually ruled and governed or if they were just esteemed symbols that held meaning through myths?


miztapebooty I am impressed. Not that i mean to stereotype but most sex workers I have know have been air heads. Your not. Your very intelligent and I have liked reading your posts.


EXCUSE ME...BellaDOnna.....i was a sexworker for years. also dux of my final years of high school and also came top in subejcts at university for he year i could STAND being there (couldn't s be roped into to organised academic straightjacketing i'm glad to say.)
it is good to know that miztapebooy is challenging your assumptions and stereotypical views about prostitutes.........

there ARE plenty of amazing women around who have been prostitutes. it's just that people are so busy adhering to sterortypes that they faill to read the detailed complexities of human life. Many of the women i know through 12 step programs have been or are still sex workers. some are thick. most are very intelligent and far more complex than one assumes.



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11 Jan 2009, 3:58 pm

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I meant violent and agressiveness just for the sake of being or doing so. There will always be a time where agressiveness may be necessary but it's usually provoked as is violence.

It happens in other animals too, and is also can be a subjective exercise to try and distinguish it purpose. Like I said all animal have their odd behaviour, it is not how one would think it is the most logical to do it. That is because we think as individuals, but act overall as a species.

You could say that chimps are unnecessarily aggressive, they don't actually have to be that aggressive but are.

This is not a point about whether violence like that is acceptable or not. We have created mechanisms that curtail some of it. Not that is foolproof or fair. But it apart of the many mechanisms the trims round the parts of our behaviour that don’t fit in the civilization mould.



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11 Jan 2009, 4:09 pm

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Reactionism. That’s is what it all about.

You could say wanting someone to reach out to you personally is a selfish thing. Ok not completely, but it is not selfless either. Not that there is anything wrong with it, it is pretty normal. It is a common need that can be satisfied in a number of ways, depending on mentality. You say that male feminists have not reached out to you, but have you tried to reach out to them? Do you think it always so trivial reaching out to someone? If that were true you wouldn't place great importance on it.

I always think, with those who say men can't be feminists that maybe they don't really want our help with anything so let them be. They have got it all figured out in their heads, and it is going to be all hunky dory in the end according to them.

But female separatists / supremacists did cause harm to women’s lib, and during the 80s they spent much of their time in-fighting as identity politic took hold. Far from being free communes, they strengthened stereotypes, and dictated how people should lead their lives, and this went so far prescribing a person’s sexuality, and cutting links with their children in some groups.

That is a good example of human nature, full circle. We are violent, we are demanding, we are selfish. Women can be aggressive and just like men be aggressive towards women as well as men.

Everybody lives with the threat of violence. For some it is more imminent, but for everyone it its there.

Aggression is much like neurosis or anxiety; it can be like feral beast that takes hold. People are also attracted to violence, even if at the same time they don’t always like it, it is a conundrum that doesn’t make much sense on the surface.

I like martial arts because it is an outlet for my aggression, and is also more controlled than otherwise.

Sometimes we talk utter tripe (I’m no exception :D) and this is especially true when we are talking about our own behaviour, which I fact we know so little about.

You could say being the person I am does give me a glimpse into the blind spots of those that have inherent behaviours I don’t, and had to learn.



I think that in a matter of circumstance, there are going to be men identifying as feminists who just simply don't cut it to my standards. It is a trendy label for men to use in order to get closer to women who will accept them easier if they are into it. I've seen this all across the board. Having emotional attachments to women doesn't make a man a feminist. A lot can be confused when you really delve into feminist communities. There are for instance, men who have sexually assaulted women in local feminist or politically radical groups in Richmond. Can they be feminists? Sure, in theory. Are they feminists in practice? If only partnering with women who identify as feminists makes a man a feminist then, by golly, they've achieved ranks of status that I have yet to accomplish as a feminist because I don't identify with political groups, only political individuals.

I've been around the block a few times here. If I'm not going to f**k anyone in a group or community, the abject idea is for me to move on with myself and find somewhere else to "work" out my ideas.

I'm not interested in sympathy for those groups, but I'm not going to take any kind of violent direct action either. I talk about people and my experiences and observations at length with those I meet who don't know the drill . If AS makes me some kind of micro managing genius, then so be it, but I can't tell people what to do with their lives if they don't want to change.



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11 Jan 2009, 4:17 pm

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I meant violent and agressiveness just for the sake of being or doing so. There will always be a time where agressiveness may be necessary but it's usually provoked as is violence.

It happens in other animals too, and is also can be a subjective exercise to try and distinguish it purpose. Like I said all animal have their odd behaviour, it is not how one would think it is the most logical to do it. That is because we think as individuals, but act overall as a species.

You could say that chimps are unnecessarily aggressive, they don't actually have to be that aggressive but are.

This is not a point about whether violence like that is acceptable or not. We have created mechanisms that curtail some of it. Not that is foolproof or fair. But it apart of the many mechanisms the trims round the parts of our behaviour that don’t fit in the civilization mould.


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Many thanks for talking some sense into that Einstein looking fellow.



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11 Jan 2009, 5:08 pm

Maybe we'll just have to wait and ask the killer chimps.
http://www.npr.org/templates/story/stor ... Id=5503685


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11 Jan 2009, 5:48 pm

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Maybe we'll just have to wait and ask the killer chimps.
http://www.npr.org/templates/story/stor ... Id=5503685

That is an interesting read. I never said that they weren't intelligent. I have read a about other examples like that.

I not really sure of your point though. That article is about bonobos, sometimes called by their old name pigmy chimps. I am talking about chimps, which are more aggressive. However this doesn’t mean they are they are not intelligent. They are very intelligent. Just because they are intelligent doesn't mean they are not aggressive. If you don't think they aggressive, I would look at some footage taken in the wild. They are often given quite a cute persona, that is because they act differently in captivity and tamed to appear less aggressive. Just because we have developed language doesn't me we are free from our primal urges either that is my whole point.


Arguably a lone orangutan male could be much more aggressive than a lone chimp male. That is because orangutans are more solitary anyway. A fully grown chimp male can be around 70kg max, whereas orangutan flanged male can be around 90kg average, 120kg max.



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11 Jan 2009, 6:13 pm

But from just scanning this article it would seem that aggression including biologically instilled aggression is usually male on male and female on female in primates of all kinds.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aggression


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11 Jan 2009, 6:18 pm

And then from 'real life' I've lived with a pretty rough crowd and known/lived with about 200 or so people who are supposed to be pretty violent types but I've only know two who ever did hit a woman and in those cases they did indeed rape the women in question. I don't know if that is important since it is such a small sample of people but you'd expect that outlaw bikers would be a lot more violent considering their overall behavior in general. Thats the main reason I don't subscribe to the 'violent-male' theory as having much validity.


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12 Jan 2009, 6:04 pm

I might have given the wrong impression I’m on someone side. So far I’ve just given my take on it, agreeing on some points other have made.

garyww wrote:
But from just scanning this article it would seem that aggression including biologically instilled aggression is usually male on male and female on female in primates of all kinds.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aggression


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And then from 'real life' I've lived with a pretty rough crowd and known/lived with about 200 or so people who are supposed to be pretty violent types but I've only know two who ever did hit a woman and in those cases they did indeed rape the women in question. I don't know if that is important since it is such a small sample of people but you'd expect that outlaw bikers would be a lot more violent considering their overall behavior in general. Thats the main reason I don't subscribe to the 'violent-male' theory as having much validity.


That is really an over simplification, and also dependent on what the biologist classifies aggression. Sexual aggression is considered a normal part of mating rituals of many animals. Rape/sexual assault are also very common place in the animal world, although it can be a grey area because the concept of consent isn't always that apparent anyway, and that is just talking about the non-fringe activities. If you want clear cases of animals that chance down and force sex with the opposite sex, and where the victim are not only trying to flee but a trying to defend themselves there are plenty of examples to choose from. Many mammals do it for example dolphins, many birds do it for example ducks. Also there is cooperation or gang rape element in many instances.

In ducks, such as mallards, rape is something that younger males do if they can get away with it. They will try and separate a female and chase her so they can then tire her out and then rape her. It is not just female ducks that are raped. Sometimes they are no females targets they will try to chase other males. In fact there is a documented case where a male duck chased another male, where the victim smacked into a window and died instantly and the attacker raped the corpse.

I get what you are trying to say with your biker’s group. However we are not arguing the same thing. My argument is less about the individual and more about aggression as a mechanism, just like testosterone is a mechanism. It is a fairly crude mechanism as well. I suppose you are more thinking in terms of those guys making decision in their minds eye. In this respect I would agree with you. Men who attempt to distance themselves from this sort of behaviour shouldn’t be marginalised either.


However I don’t view aggression as something you either have or you don’t, it is something that is apart of nearly all of us. We can self-regulate it to an extent and that is what allows us to live in societies. Trying to live in civilization is like trying to live in a cramped box in terms of behaviour. The box has got plenty of dents in it, it has number of ruptures, and rust round the edges, the inhabitants are very contorted and scrunched up. Some people completely lack the ability to self regulate their aggression, for other it is something that boils under the surface and if they don’t find enough release it can be more explosive.



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12 Jan 2009, 6:17 pm

so just say it in fifty words as these threads aren't intended to be essays.


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12 Jan 2009, 6:26 pm

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so just say it in fifty words as these threads aren't intended to be essays.

You don't know me very well :lol:



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12 Jan 2009, 6:38 pm

<staring at floor for last ten virtual minutes>

I can't believe Gary won't admit that men are inherently violent, when he knows old school bikers in gangs that have raped women.