Good 'ol Dad...

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Ok, Shiggily. It's over with now.

I didn't really want to be so... blunt. I am sorry about what happened to you. If your father had AS it may have exacerbated some aspects of his personality relating to him being a pedophile (intuitively, determining social appropriateness of certain actions, or establishing a lack of emotional reciprocity with you in a way that would have prevented the violation of the familial relationship). But it is impossible to box people into categories in the way humans want to. You probably want him to make sense. To understand why he did what he did and in what way that relates to you. To break down all his actions into tiny sequences of cause and effect, so that you can follow his line of reasoning. For the longest time I struggled with aspects of my personality that I felt were too similar to my own father's, in the belief that I was somehow going to turn out just like him. While parts of my personality are similar to other people who cross certain lines... it does not mean that I am just like that or that there is a correlation between the two. In the same way, a person with AS might have personality features similar to a pedophile or psychopath, usually it is just a case of both happening at the same time.

I would honestly recommend that you put aside attempting to rationalize irrational behavior and focus on who you are... independent of your father.

glad I have your permission

Cool beans.