Should us females be ignored while on our periods?

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Now that i've gone through menopause, I see how out of control and unrational I was during my periods. I saw a bit on family guy recently that made me chuckle. Where a guy just told a women to go away, cause she was on her period, and that she'll be fine in a few days, very true. Maybe we should get annual time off work, so paid for that short time when we are on, and just stay at home. I feel very sorry the way I treated my ex husband now. Once I reached that cursed age of 45 and I started wrinkling up. And being very depressed about feeling so old, I drove him away. I missed that company, but now i'm in an old people's home, I find some comfort with other's.

It depends how much they actually piss us off. If they're just in a bad mood, well, that's no reason to shun anyone.

Yes, but i'm sure if the lady knew she was getting paid just to stay at home, she'd be happy to. Money is what drives us.

some work places give 3 days off for women a month

i have felt though that probably the most insensitive thing a male can do is ask a woman is make some mention of 'that time of the month' as a response to some emotional need or problem or something.

No, us women quite appreciate it when you say that. Cause you are being considerate, and not taking any notice of what we say while its our time of the month.

Not really...

if I were talking about an emotional problem and someone blindly associted it with "time of the month" I wouldn't feel that way. Not everyone is "out of control" or "irrational", either during those times.

I guess it depends if the woman wants to be left alone or not. I've tried to be sensitive to my wife during those times and make her surroundings a little more pleasant, sometimes to no avail. There have been times where she wants to be left alone, and other times where she wants affection. I guess you ought to try to be flexible and accommidating.

I think men should probably be more understanding of it and I think women should try to be more aware of it. Beyond that, there's only so much people(men or women) can do. I tend to agree with protest_the_hero. Being cranky isn't a valid reason to shun someone.

EDIT: When I say women should try to be more aware of it, I mean that when they are in a bad mood they should give a couple moments consideration to whether or not it's affecting their mood and try to act accordingly or take a few minutes to cool down before making any hasty decisions based off of their anger. I've found anger to be the single most blinding emotion I've experienced so far. People say love is just as bad or worse, but I'd have to experience it first to make a decision about that.

Females should learn just how they start to feel when that 'time of the month' comes around, and learn to control themselves accordingly. That's what I do. I even use a Period tracker to predict when I might start to fall into my bad moods. I let everyone know when this is going to happen, and then when that time comes, I put even more effort to really think about my reactions when I am in those moods.

So far, so good.

In my 20's or early 30's it wasn't so bad, I don't remember being overly moody or difficult.

Then I hit my late 30's and all he$$ started breaking loose. and yes, I'm aware of "it", I just can't control "it", so I just try to avoid everyone for a few days...it's like someone let the monster out of the cage.

I'm at the lovely stage of life called "peri-menopause", or so they have told me. Whatever the heck it is I hope it ends soon, until then I just tell people to come bearing gifts of chocolate and leave me alone until I stabilize.

This basically.


I think we should just be treated with a bit more understanding perhaps.

I mean, seriously, there's blood pouring out of our vag's during that time. I really don't see how you can be expected to be miss sunshine keeping that in mind.

Apart from that some women are in actual pain because of cramps etc. and I do think they could be treated with a bit more TLC as well. It's quite easy to say someone's overreacting, and for some it may be true, but others do have a genuine horrible time during their period.

I don't really have a problem with mood though.
Perhaps I'll cry in my room the day before, and eat a bit more sweet stuff for a day, two weeks before...
but other than that I don't change at all.
If I'd be ignored just because of the fact that I'm on my period, I'd feel as if we'd have taken a big step back to the middle ages again.

This is something I will never personally experience, and yet I still worry about it. I don't want people blaming PMS on my legitimatly bad moods, and this does happen to people whether or not they are on their period.

Second, women shouldn't be ignored because they are on their period, but should be respected equally or more so then when they are not.

Tip of the day: Ladies watch your boyfriends closely. Men have their own cycle, and I believe the timeing is similar to a female cycle, not sure though as there are no discreet indicators of it. Point is, if you watch your bf closely enough, you will be able to tell when he is more edgy before he will know. I know this from my own personal experience and observations of my male family and most importantly of myself. And if you really want to be anal about it, explain the whole male cycle to them, and then point it out when they are acting because of their cycle. Most people don't know about it simply because there is no physical sign of it, no bleeding or anything, so the only way to tell is to observe him for a while, and find patterns.

It is actually best to stay away from me during a period. I have one long huge evil mental meltdown during periods. I constantly feel the need to either cry or punch something.

Women react differently to getting/having our periods. Not everyone becomes monsters, though I'm not denying that a few of us do.

Because 50.something% of the worlds population are expected to mostly be quiet and agreeable all the time, people make a big deal about it when we aren't. It's the hormones, they say. But testosterone is also a hormone that makes people aggressive, loud, and sometimes quite obnoxious. Should we just silence all teenage boys because of their hormones? (Hey! that kinda sounded like a good idea!)

It's a natural proccess. At least we can get our anger out a few days a month.