etiquette/manners - obvious stuff
Hi all. I tend to dip in and out of these forums every now and then - still confused if I have aspergers or not. Online tests say I do, but I've since decided to hound my doc until he can set me on the path of a diagnosis to get to the bottom of it all.
But i have an issue that has bugged me for years and years about myself. I always try and do the right thing through watching how other people behave and do things and trying to separate the things that get positive responses from the negative responses (i'm 32 and still have to study other people to try and get this right). It's like no matter what, there's always something I don't do right and my anxiety means I take it personal and start worrying about it when I really don't need to.
I always try and make sure I say please and thank you when appropriate. But for example today at work, after I make everyone a hot drink, it just simply never occurred to me that the polite/obvious thing to do is to take all cups back to the kitchen for washing - until my boss mentioned it. And there I was this morning wondering why there were no mugs in the kitchen.
Things like this happen all the time, things that are so blatantly obvious that i'm lacking and every so often I will notice it because it feels like other people just know to do this kind of stuff like it's instinct and I don't.
_________________
I am a budding amateur photographer and I have started displaying some designs through MiPic so you can buy prducts with my prints on!
Stunning Images On T-Shirts, Homeware and More!!
That's exactly what my mother was furious at me for a great part of my life. Not getting the "obvious". I got somehow calmer when I learned that it is due to how my brain works and that I can't do much about it. That's it, that's me, I often miss the obvious and you need to tell me. We all have our limitations, this one is mine (and yours).
I hope your friends and coworkers can deal with it.
_________________
Let's not confuse being normal with being mentally healthy.
<not moderating PPR stuff concerning East Europe>
Similar Topics | |
---|---|
When autism is more obvious in some than others! |
16 Feb 2024, 5:31 am |
Special interest in unwritten rules (of etiquette)? |
07 Mar 2024, 12:20 pm |
woman tried to buy stuff at Walmart with a million dollar bi |
20 Jan 2024, 1:52 pm |