Greentea wrote:
My biggest problem is that I never know how much effort I'm supposed to make to fit in, especially at work. Should I be tense all the time and tuning into all body language and trying desperately to say the right thing all the time? Or do I have the right to relax a bit here and there, even if I get outcast as a consequence? Are NTs constantly tense and alert when relating to colleagues at work or are they sometimes relaxed and being spontaneous? I dread having to start at a new job again, because I dread the terrible tension of being constantly on guard what I say, where my eyes look, my body language, etc. And it's also hopeless, because I always end up being fired anyway. All the tension and hard work buys me some time till I'm fired, at best.
I'm surprised, when you're the one usually trying to tell
us why it's smart to try to fit in!
Greentea, let me tell ya my perspective based on personal experience: work for yourself.
forget trying to fit in; just do things right and responsibly, and do things to promote your own life. If others don't like it, that's their problem, and much like with most other people, they will have an issue with it.
The majority of NTs I meet seem mostly concerned about shooting off their mouths to other people til they've had their daily cups of Joe, then start shooting their mouths off about "important things" such as the economy, or what have you. Get 'em later at night, it's all about sex and drinking.
If you're so worried about impressing them, then chances are it's not right for you, and you're better off doing something else.
08 Jun 2009, 11:46 pm
