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07 Feb 2010, 4:47 pm

KenM wrote:

4. Why people feel the need to have kids. I don't want kids, can't see the need for them. I don't understand why people want to have them beacuse once you have one, you are doing nothing but taking care of the kid for the next 18 years or so. All your money goes to the kid, all your free time goes to the kid. You get nothing out of it.

This is simply the instinct to make the species survive.

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07 Feb 2010, 8:46 pm

1. Anything financial. Bank and insurance documents do not make any sense to me at all no matter how hard I concentrate on them. I have gotten into alot of trouble from signing papers that I did not completely understand.

2. Ive always had trouble reading analog clocks. It still takes me 10 seconds or so to figure out what time it is

3. The need for alot of friends has never made sense to me. Im perfectly content having one friend or even being alone

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07 Feb 2010, 9:45 pm

mitharatowen wrote:

Another one for me: It is impossible for me to comprehend any kind of general statement. I cannot process anything without a specific example to look at and analyze. For example if someone says to me, "You always argue with me!" I'd have to ask for a specific example of the behavior they have a problem with so that I can try to find out why I do it and what are the possible options to make said behavior better. I cannot accept the statement "You always argue with me" on it's own merit and try to figure out how to fix it from just that. Without an example, those words are absolutely meaningless to me. That's kind of a poor example... but it comes up all the time in real life. I simply cannot process generalizations. Even a hypothetical example will help me a lot. But no example is a good way to make me completely miss your point.

It seems to cause much frustration to those around me.

This is a big one for me as well. GIVE ME SPECIFICS!! !

1.) I am able to use sarcasm. It is an unwieldy tool but I am still able to use it. Only if I could 'get' sarcasm.

2.) How to 'fake smile and make it look natural'. I've practiced all sorts of facial expressions in the mirror. Smiling I seem to not be able to get down.

3.) Why does the dog barking irritate me?

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07 Feb 2010, 9:53 pm

Directions. I know my left from my right but I'm totally confused when it comes to north, south, east and west. Someone can tell me which way north is and then I will only know it again if I'm standing in the exact spot that I was in when I was told. If I'm anywhere else I wouldn't have a clue if I was asked.

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07 Feb 2010, 10:28 pm

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1. The word "pragmatics" or "pragmatic", and its use. It's not that I require a definition. It's more like, I need to look it up and spend sometime thinking about it every time I want to use it, or every time I hear being used. It won't stick.

Ok, I confess, I haven't read the entire thread, but wow, what a coincidence... I've just brought this up in my Asperger's group about two weeks ago! I've had the exact same problem... oh man... I must have looked that word up more than 10 times already! And it's just this one word!! !

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08 Feb 2010, 2:55 am

Brittany2907 wrote:

The Sun rises in the East and sets in the West. So, if you know what North/South/East/West is on a map you can use the Sun to work around this. I also look at star chart to help me, so I can tell from constellations.

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08 Feb 2010, 4:57 am

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There are probably lots of things I don't understand, but one which bugs me and always has done, is why people a. say things they don't mean and b. speak in an over-elaborate way instead of just saying what they mean. That drives me nuts. I tend to 'switch off' when people do that.

I know what you mean. If people want to get a point across, why can't the just SAY it? They have to be vague and ambiguous for some stupid reason. Then they tell me that although they didn't say it, it was obvious what they meant.... NO. IT. WASN'T. 1 - You didn't say 2 - I don't read f*****g read minds.

Anyways...

What I can't get my head around is subtraction. Addition is easy. I just can't go back the other way. I hate working in retail because if a customer changes their mind about how they want to pay after I've added it up on the register, I have to pull out a calculator and look like an idiot.

Oh, and ANYTHING to do with politics. It makes no sense.

Almost forgot - tying knots. Any sort of knot. If people show me how I just see a blur of hands and strings. I don't actually gather any informationl.

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08 Feb 2010, 5:18 am

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2. "Important papers". From the bank, insurance company or something like that. Just seeing it makes me stressed. And when I read it it's all mumbo-jumbo. My typical reaction is; "WHAT DO THEY WANT FROM ME?!"

3. How to make friendships or relationships. The process contains lots of social codes that comes naturally to most people, but I could really use a guidebook!

4. How people can get excited about sports games. I simply can't get excited over a boll that somebody puts in the goal; because it doesn't matter really; it's just a rule in a game!

5. People that use "But that's the way it is/that's the way you do it" as an argument.
I myself is so unaffected by what other people believe or do, norms and meaningless traditions that these types of comments just make me very frustrated.

All of those I really get but especially 2 and 5!
2 - I just look at any form and think "how the hell do they expect anyone to comprehend this?" do people really spend their lives filling these things out? Why ME?! Why do they care about ME and what I write down on this piece of paper?!
5 - I hate that so much! You ask why something is and they just repeat the fact, rather than give you the explanation! I don't want to just hear again that it IS, I'm asking WHY because I don't understand. Everything has a reason. If you can't give me a real reason then there can't possibly be one!

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08 Feb 2010, 5:33 am

bigdaveangell2000 wrote:

This is a big problem for me. I get phobic about it and put it aside to deal with later. Consequently my car insurance was dropped and I was driving around uninsured for 4 months. I'm re-insured but I feel like an idiot. The new agent is a church friend of my mother's and I just told him I have inattentive ADD and I have a hard time understanding these things. Sometimes dignity is over rated. He said he'd help me anytime.

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08 Feb 2010, 7:38 am

Double post.. sorry

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08 Feb 2010, 7:38 am

Things I don't get either..

Small Talk.. Why? What's the point of talking nonsense and who really gives a toss about the weather or who X on TV is shagging.

Organised Sports and Religion... Again Why? What's the point of having to go somewhere at a specific time every week? It's like having a job without getting paid. Not my idea of fun!! Don't get it at all.

Mob Mentality.. Loud, shouting, ignorant sheep.. Desire to ostracize or ridicule anything or anyone different I just don't understand

Gangs.. Why? Why do people need to belong to such violent things?

Going to the pub every week or night... Especially people that go alone and sit and talk to the bar staff (I used to work behind a bar).. Go be sad and lonely by yourself.. Geez! Also why pay over inflated prices, have to stand, drink watered down spirits, have to shout to be heard and have to get smashed to have any kind of fun or to get up enough courage to chat someone in the hope of getting laid? I just don't get it.

People who have kids but don't seem to want or know how to raise them.. Again I don't understand why?

Having lots of fake friends just to look popular or liked.. Again.. Just don't get it.

How people can spend their whole life living in the same place, doing the same job and knowing the same people... Sounds very boring to me.

Why people watch the news on TV.. I don't get why? It's all one sided, mostly negative and usually about another country or some poor bugger getting killed.

Hero worship and stardom.. We're all human after all and some less so.. I don't understand the need to idolize.

How an actor, actress or sports star can get payed so much when most people of similar or greater value are struggling and are often underpaid

How it feels to be someone else

I understand the above on an intellectual level but not in an emotional or logical way.. I just don't get it!

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08 Feb 2010, 9:13 am

I'm dyspraxic, and am always getting lost. I've finally mastered left and right, but I do have to concentrate to get it right, if I'm not concentrating, I'll still get lost.

The OP mentions gambling. I just cannot understand it either.

I'm always forgetting birthdays, including my own. The idea of celebrating days doesn't gell with me. I think that's a dyspraxic thing also.

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08 Feb 2010, 10:19 am

Getting the grasp topic

Driving, Swimming, Gossiping, Multitasking, Routine changes, Touching--all these are a mystery to me.

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08 Feb 2010, 10:22 am

1. Maternal instinct:

Why don't more mothers give their babies up for adoption? Why do mothers fight tooth and nail for sole custody while complaining how hard it is to be a single parent. If it's so hard, why are you fighting to keep that job away from someone you hate? Why do kids want their moms so much when they're hurt?

Why do moms keep getting upset when their babies grow up and stop needing them? Isn't that the whole point?

2. Politics:

How do you get power? How does everyone else just automatically defer to a certain person without even thinking about it? How do you keep all the various people, their interests and motivations, and how they can be influenced, straight? How can you tell what to reveal to whom and what to keep secret from whom and keep that all straight?

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08 Feb 2010, 10:55 am

3. Why does it mess with people's minds so severely to have sex during childhood?

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