Do aspie males seek NT partners?

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Hey dudes, this is a man post. I read that aspie males seek relationships with NT partners, to find someone helps them overcome social, domestic, and other challenges they have as a result of their their deficencies. Is this true in your opinion? It is in mine, although I didn't know I was an aspie at the time.

All of my relationships have been with NTs. But I wouldn't say it's because I specifically sought them out. They just make up such an overwhelming majority that it's kinda hard not to end up with them.

I don't know how an NT partner, male or female, could "compensate" for Autistic "deficiencies",
but it's certainly easier to find NT partners,
and for the male Aspie, who faces a situation where (diagnosed) female Aspies are few and far between, there may not be any other option.

When I speak of deficiencies I'm referring to characteristics the male is not strong in; poor organizational skills, trouble establishing contact with neighbors, bills are a mystery, etc.

Right. How would a partner possessing those skills mean he isn't still lacking in them?

Curious.

Because now, as a couple, his wife can do the things she's good at, making life better for both of them. Example: aspie guy bounces checks all the time, marries NT wife who never bounces anything and all bills paid on time. Now aspie guy has solved his check bouncing problem. His weakness doesn't go away, it's just compensated for.

I'm terrible at some things and need help from someone who's better at them, so yes.

From what I've read when Aspies mate they produce autistic children more often but I don't think that was the core focus of your question.

I think you might be a little off base even posing the question that way.
I've never had significant others that weren't NT but I could see it working out either way.
My wife and I have vastly different strengths and in may ways are total opposites however we share interests in common and enjoy each other's company. Where our interests differ greatly we just let the other do their thing. It isn't always rosy... we have the occasional misunderstanding/etc.. but things work out.
Aspie or NT it comes down to finding someone that accepts you and will help you grow in areas you want to.

I edited my OP, hope my point is less vague now, thanks for your comment. I'd have to agree with you about it not mattering if they are NT/AS as long as they are supportive. I read that article and thought it would be interesting to weigh it against a WP poll.

only 1 in 200 women are going to be aspie. you would be severely limiting yourself if you took that approach.

Jason

For a long-term relationship, I'd probably want a woman who was rather opposite in strengths and could balance me out, as some others have said.

For shorter term relationships, I could be with someone like that, but I also find some women who are close to the spectrum attractive, if they are curious in a childlike sort of way. Most of the diagnosed women I have met don't "click" much though, at least from my end.