WP members GF ill with cancer

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Idk if it'd show it on the blackberry, but on a normal computer at the very top of that page there's a link that says "sign up" . Is there anyone nearby you know with a computer or could it be done at the local library's ?

K, so it looks like Melbi's taking a hiatus from WP for an unspecified amount of time according to a post of hers on the 19th.
So i'm not sure if i can count on anything from her until she's back and i am able to get a PM though...

Sean, I can't imagine how you feel, but I hope the best for both of you. Dispatching a PM shortly

^THIS. I hope people who have a few spare bucks will consider helping out. Love is important, and we might have a shot at making this one more complete, and possibly longer.

Try not to take it personally Sean. It might have something to do with the economy.
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Many people are unemployed. Some here are on disability like you and me and don't really have a lot of money.
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Then there is the fear of being scammed for money. I mean no disrespect Sean to you or to Adrienne, but this is the Internet and there are lots of people who prey on people like us.
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That's why it's so important to show proof that this situation really exists.
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Then some of us don't have the PayPal accounts or an quick and easy way to register for one.
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It all takes some time and effort. This is all still in the early stages. Your trying to create something with little resources, that's not an easy task.
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I understand your frustration in wanting to be with Adrienne now, but having the lack of funds to get there holding you up. Unfortunately, we can only do what we can do.
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That's why I have suggested contacting churches and the press and asking them for help as well. Again, it all takes time and effort. -------------------------------------------------------------
The more people who know, the more successful you will be at raising funds.
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You should try to get some more sleep. I need to get some myself. Good Night.

Yeah, i know. I'm not really taking the thread dying too personally.
it's just kind of a bummer in and of itself.

Thanks Blasty !

It wouldn't make sense to me either, but apparently "the girfriend with a terminal illness" is a classic "scam", providing emotional nourishment for a certain sort of person, and sometimes money too as a bonus. I can't imagine ever doing anything like that, but there are people for whom this kind of thing is deeply satisfying.

On the face of it someone who is introduced on the phone as your girlfriend's mother should be her mother, ( and in a different world would be ), but it *might* also be her flatmate or her sister, or a friend. I wouldn't have these sort of suspicions if I hadn't already heard of three such cases, one on WP which caused a lot of grief to a longstanding member here.

And she may be fairly sure that you would never get enough money to go and visit her, ... and may also not care very much if you did find out.

I am finding it very hard to swallow that three days of bad headache just two weeks ago, ( around the 8-11 July ) have already been diagnosed as a cancerous brain tumour and that an operation has already been scheduled for it for the 29 July, and am surprised that she is being left alone at home all day in this dangerous condition which causes her to black out etc.

... in other words I still don't believe her story, and I suspect that quite a lot of other people here don't either, or there would have been a lot more pledges to give money by now. Very sorry.

I hope for your sake that it is not a scam, and also that your girlfriend's tumour is not as serious as it currently seems to be, but at the moment have no proof that any of it is real.
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two of her photos look kinda different too actually >_< I hope she is telling the truth but I so think its wise to get as much information as possible.

Sometimes, cancer grows very quickly, real fast. That happens.
And it can be diagnosed easily if the signs are there.

I hope too that if it's true, Sean's girlfriend will be ok with the surgery.

The Wikipedia page about "Brain Tumours" is at: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brain_tumor

So *maybe*, ( just *maybe* ), the surgery that she supposedly has programmed for the 29 July is actually for diagnostic purposes, but in which case why is she saying that the doctor told her, on the basis of three days of headache, that she definitely has a brain tumour, which may, or may not, be cancerous.
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well, aside from the head pain, there's also been nosebleeds and some chest pains. I don't know what particular symptoms she reported to the doctor, i just know that she'd been telling me about headaches for those three days before she went in .
Also she didn't black out directly from the tumor. She was getting up to stand and then her knees buckled and she collapsed, hitting her head on the corner of her bed on the way down and it knocked her out. Her mom only woke up and found her like that 'cause her dog had started barking after she fell

there are other methods of detection i believe, aren't there ?
besides, it's my understanding that wikipedia is not the most reliable source of information. Anyone can edit it, there's no promise that it's information isn't outdated, and nor is there any that the people who upload it's information know everything.

can't MRI be used?
http://adsabs.harvard.edu/abs/2005SPIE.5747.2012I
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http://www.cancercenter.com/brain-cancer/mri.cfm
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http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/4006173.stm

i think it's clear that wikipedia needs an update

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And even if it's a "maybe", she could have taken it for "certain", being upset and ill as she seems to be

I used my neighbor's across the hall a couple of times but it's not working at the moment. Since neither one of them used it much to begin with, I doubt they're in a hurry to get it fixed or buy a new one.
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There was a couple who lived around the corner that had a computer, but he lost his job and they had to move to Virginia Beach to live with her mother.
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I said that I would try to go to the library and register on PayPal earlier in this thread. But my right knee is swollen and very painful. So I have mobility issues at the moment. So it may take some time.
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That's why I asked if you have a P.O. Box where I could send my donation to you by mail. I could write a check and give it to the postal carrier to mail it for. me.
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Love, Taupey

If your knee's hurting that badly, of course i wouldn't ask you to do anything like that. Once again, hope you get that sorted out and feeling better soon .

i'll look into the P.O. box then. Though it could also just be sent to my home address. I'm not one to give that out to the general public, but there are a few people on here i trust.

Of course MRI is used, but it only provides a "probable" diagnosis, which would have to be confirmed by biopsy, because MRI imaging of tumours is only variably accurate, ( as the whole section on diagnosis from the Brain tumour page at Wikipedia explains: ) and can not be used for determining the correct treatment, ( which would include surgery, medications, etc ), nor for a prognosis.


It is possible that as Xena says, she may have taken a "maybe a tumour" statement from her doctor for "definitely a tumour", and be mistaking a diagnostic process ( biopsy or whatever ) for surgery, but I am still skeptical.

Do doctors in the USA really give MRI's after three days of headaches, ... especially if the headaches go away again within the next few days? ( plus no vomiting, no fever? )?

An MRI does not give unambiguous results. The article that you linked to above, seanmw, describing a new way to interpret MRI images to distinguish between abcesses and tumours, ( which current MRI imaging is not able to reliably distinguish between ) is/was about a process still at the experimental stage, ( "more trials are needed" it says ).

Is it just me, or doesn't it seem weird that someone with a brain-tumour apparently requiring almost immediate surgery, a tendency to fall over and knock herself out, nosebleeds, chest pains, ( not to say the unexplained increases in her "libido" which you describe on your thread in the Haven :lol ), etc, is left alone at home all day?

And I am surprised that an additional head-injury resulting in loss of consciousness in someone with a brain-tumour didn't apparently warrant an immediate visit to the Emergency section of the nearest hospital.

Prognosis/predicted lifespan after diagnosis of a brain tumour seems to vary enormously from a little over a year to 10-15 years, ( to much longer in some cases ) depending on the type, so, ( if she is telling you the truth ), even in the worst case scenario you still have a while in which to collect money for the trip. If I were you I would at least wait to hear the results of the ( hypothetical ) biopsy/diagnostic procedure, before spending large amounts of money on plane fares.
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