Women who have aspergers: A non-issue for them

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Everyone should throw in a dollar and gift a prostitute for the guy.

why

He might relax and not be such an intimidating dick?

I'm not married, and nor do I wish to be. Marriage isn't really my thing, not to mention intimacy that comes along, with it. I was hurt very badly in college, by a guy in college, who I thought was my type, until he turned, and started treating me, like I was mentally retarded. I've never fallen in love with a man, since than. Besides, I'd rather enjoy an evening, listening to The Kinks, than be forced to engage in an evening, of hot sex.

What makes you think that would relax him

You find him intimidating

If he is that desperate, y not take matters into his own two hands? I'm sure there are plenty of web sites that will help with the how to if he needs directions.

I would be willing to shell out some cash so he can purchase some toys. *nod*

at the risk of feeding the trolls i felt compelled to comment on this solely because people tell me this all the f****n time, even those who know i have aspergers.
its so annoying to hear because there is so much more to it than that.
im no model of course, but i could probably go to the bar and put out a line and get some bites if i so desired, however i'd rather go to the dentist and have a cavity filled than go to a place and interact with a bunch of strangers, not knowing what to say, or how to look at them or "pick up on social cues" or feel extremely uncomfortable for the duration... not to mention the intolerable noise levels that one would encounter at a bar...

KaiG wrote:
You need counselling. Odds are it's not just your Asperger's that's causing the problem, but some other issues such as poor self-esteem or extreme social anxiety. These are not inherent to the Syndrome, and can be dealt with.

I'd watch out, in your post I'm seeing similarities with the attitude that the guy who shot up that gym had. Blaming women and the world for his own problems. I'd look into dealing with the situation in a more constructive manner than blame.



I agree with you . Theirs probably some co morbid conditions at play here, from my experience I can say get that dealt with and you may realise finding a significant other is not so important . I think this "chase"/ snowball (anxiety/depressive rejection ) goes back to high school "chasing" the friend or potential GF was all part of surviving the jungle. Now that I'm older and I like to think wiser (and finally correctly medicated ) I'm quite happy to go either way which is an ideal place to be for an aspie to be !

Though I think his right I think it's easier for women , quiet and introverted drives many men wild, I'm supposed to be smooth and put on the machismo , which for an aspie male is like speaking a foreign language that has not been learned.


Also I don't think aspie women being married at an early age is such a good thing , have you seen the hard data ? their seems to be a disproportionately large number of them in abusive relationships.

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Also I don't think aspie women being married at an early age is such a good thing , have you seen the hard data ? their seems to be a disproportionately large number of them in abusive relationships.

This is one of the exact reasons why it's no easier for women than for men.

Also, it's a little known fact that women like sensitive men. Being macho tends to attract the wrong sort of women.

I agree. I don't believe any of that "they have it easier because they're female" crap.

I prefer AS-AS as well!

I wouldn't mind one either but I decided three years ago maybe I shouldn't date an aspie because of my last one. But he just happened to be ignorant and never listened when I would correct him and he jumped to assumptions so quick and thought he was right rather than it knowing it's his speculation and the fact he always worried too much what people thought and acted like he could read their minds and knew what stranger's lives were like without even knowing them. It was crazy and maybe I should have added instead, never date anyone with low self esteem. Plus he didn't know how to be frugal so things wouldn't have worked out anyway.

No, that's exactly what i meant, i said it right there, i can go places alone. What other meanings did you imagine?


I'm not happy to be alone, i said i'm not currently trying anymore, but this time will pass.


I had old wounds i needed to vent before i could move on. I have moved on.


Oh noes. My load!! ! I can do better i can!! !

The problem is not getting dates, it's keeping the men around once they start to see how "weird" we can be. Either they leave, or you end up getting the kind of guy who DOES stay but is abusive... Finally, after many failed relationships, I have a man who at least tries to accept my quirks and behaviors and so on ( I'll be 40 in only a few short years). we still don't see eye to eye on many things, but then again--- no one does. Honestly, sometimes it's better to be alone then with a series of crappy people.