Are we just here for the ride?

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How many people on the forum who have either been diagnosed with an ASD or are seeking a diagnosis think, like me that they have little control over their life and are just here for the ride? Before I heard of the vocational rehabillitation programme that I'm now in I would have voted, "here for the ride" but now I have actually voted, "maybe yes, maybe no" because although I do feel cluless a lot of the time I am now being told that I will be given the option of doing a few courses and I know I will probably be getting work placements as well.

I think that's all life is for anyone. Control is an illusion. Even Tony Robbins is a fictional character, he just can't accept it.

I know I have some control over my life but a sheer coincidence could make the difference between being on the street and being the CEO of a billion dollar company.

I think "here for the ride" is at least somewhat accurate, but I do not feel strapped into any specific seat or that I must sit a certain way. The ride is obviously not the same for everyone who ever lives, and I believe it is even possible to "switch trains" (or to at least move to a different car or coach) from time to time.

I wouldn't want to be the CEO of just any old company but if the "right" company that meshes with my high standards came along, I might not balk at being CEO of that.
I have some advice for anyone who wants to try and be a CEO. Go to the library or Barnes and Noble and find the biography section. Then, find biographies of various business men and CEOs. See if there are steps they took to get where they got and do what they did, if possible. It's more than just coincidence. You need to study and devise a plan with CEO as your goal. You might not succeed, but, at least you'll increase your odds a fraction.

I believe that I have complete control over my life, and I'm not just here, for the ride.

I believe there are many factors at play. I cannot really be sure how it works. I feel like my life is pretty much completely out of control right now because I keep buying junk food and I cant stop doing things that harm and dont help me.

I guess if I was in a healthier place, I would perhaps be more in control. But still limited by nature and the world, and also paradoxically, helped along by these things too. I believe I really have no idea where the journey will take me.

I think of it like a game of pinball--our choices are limited to the left or right flipper, but with practice you can master the technique of tilting the table. It isn't much--but sometimes it will save your ball from the gutter. In life that's worth more than a little.

I do feel I have less sense of control over my life than non-autistic people seem to, because I tend to see the details rather than the overall picture, so it's like my awareness often is that of fragments, rather than a direction. But I'm not sure whether that means I actually have less control, or if it's just a feeling. I can imagine that if I was always simultaneously aware of the big picture and the direction of something, I'd feel a lot more in control.

I used to feel that way, I honestly thought that I would die pretty young. I did absolutely whatever I wanted in my younger days and i actually had a lot of fun. I had a pretty nihilistic point of view.

I still do, I just believe that I can and should do certain things that are within my range of options to shape my life the way I want it to be. I expect that some of it will stick and some won't, but I see it working for other people. I voted maybe yes/ maybe no. I am OK with my life taking some unexpected turns, but I also think that I can keep some negative things from happening. It really doesn't feel that way sometimes, but for the most part I believe it.

Exactly, I am ALWAYS losing sight of the big picture, I am pretty far behind in life because of this but I am 25 years old. I feel like I'm 100 but thankfully I still have time to fix things.