devark wrote:
I talk with my hands because it helps me guide my attention and keep on track about what I want to say. Like I'm always, in a sense "seeing" what I'm talking about, so moving my hands around relative to what I'm seeing in my mind helps keep me focused. I also become very clumsy when I do this, so its not uncommon for me to walk into, trip, or knock something over when I really get talking (I'm great at parties!).
This is me. If I'm talking about things that interest me, I act out my thoughts with my hands, arms and body. The more relaxed I get, the clumsier I am, knocking things over, breaking things. I can take up a lot of space once I get going.
If I have to talk on the phone, I will cover any paper within reach with unconscious doodles.
Callista wrote:
Not really; not always... If I'm thinking hard enough about what I need to say, nothing of me but my mouth will be moving; or the moving I'm doing will be pretty much unrelated to communication. I dump the non-verbals when I need to do so to get my point across. I'm pretty sure there are others who use the same strategy.
But this is also true - if it's important, or if I'm really angry, then the only thing moving is my thoughts and my mouth, the rest ceases to exist. On the rare occasions when I get coldly angry, sometimes it seems as if even the air around me freezes in place. Sudden preternatural stillness is a very bad sign.