'People With Aspergers Don't Care About Being Bullied'

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Yep, that's about the same level of "support" I received. "Well why don't you just stand up to them?" was the usual thing.

Of course I cared about the bullying - the trouble is, no-one else did.

I remember my mother telling me as a child what not do to and I won't get bullied anymore. No hiding in the bushes, no running away from the teachers, no talking about this or that, no throwing scissors in class. Now I look back and see part of it was my fault I did get bullied but people online keep telling me it wasn't. Hello I did this stuff, how is it not my fault? I even feel I should have had better self control for my hyperactivity and to control my teasing better and care about people better. And that is what got me to change eventually and finally started to learn, plus I wanted to be liked and have tons of friends and be "normal." I watched nice people and looked at mean people and learned what not to do and I read books on skills. But back then I had no idea why I was being picked on so I always played the victim and had the "oh poor me" complex.
Now it's obvious as an adult why I got bullied.

It is kind of is hard to tell the difference b/t a bully and an as*hole.

Ignorance. Pure ignorance.

'Bout all I have to say.

Your workmates are idiots.

Also, the WORST possible place to learn ANYTHING about Autism is from anything produced in Hollywood.

She's an IDIOT! I consider myself to have AS, I was bullied in school, and I DID care! It was everyone ELSE that didn't!



Kind of hard for you to be in your world when people are hitting you, etc...



YEAH. If only it WERE so easy!



Yeah, some people LIKE it. And who cares, if they find they generally get along at least as well.



Not that that matters ANYWAY, but genes they have found that seem linked are NOT sex linked! And the idea of social interaction is a big part of females.



I don't blame you. I usually QUOTE "teachers", because I have seen SO few teachers! I have had LOTS of "teachers" though.



Yeah, it is almost like those charts where they blend blue and yellow. You may see blue that isn't pur, but looks blue, etc...



Well, sheldon IS the epitome of a stereotype that is along the lines of AS. STILL, I bet MANY here don't look like sheldon, move like sheldon, etc... I know I don't. But as far as social problems, talking about interests, and a few other things, we ARE alike.

What a strange thing for the teacher to say! I can relate to people not being able to stand me but I definitely wasn't happy with being bullied. I could have handled them not being able to stand me, but I didn't want to be hit, kicked or thrown on the ground and sat on. I also hated being picked on. Maybe the teacher rationalizes that it's okay to bully kids with AS because it won't matter to them, according to her.

Aside from being wrong about Aspies caring about being bullied (we DO, and it HURTS), there's the simple fact that bullying is wrong. I might have read wrong, but is your workmate a teacher? Terrifying that this person is in charge of kids and doesn't think bullying is a problem that needs to be solved.

Yes, she teaches/works at a preschool. I work at an Arts and Crafts type of store, and she works there part-time. I think that for her to have said that as a teacher shows how little she knows about her own students. I don't think she takes the time to ask her students how they feel or why they've said or done certain things. For her to even say that she couldn't stand a four year-old student with Asperger's because he'll point at another student and tell them how stupid they are and how smart he is, and that she finds that a little obnoxious is a off-putting. She said that I'm basically too 'adorable' to be like that. Hi, once again: I'm twenty-three. He's four. There's no comparison there.

I've heard teachers talk badly about students before. Teachers can have what's known as burnout, where they are fed up with the rigors of their job and view it from a cynic's point of view. I guess it shouldn't be too surprising that would come from a teacher. I have been stereotyped and misunderstood by elementary school teachers myself.

There isn't one.

I would have killed myself if my parents didn't take me out of public school. The bullying was that bad. I have PTSD from the bullying I received from one teacher alone.

My reaction to bullying was a complete lack of reaction. I can see how it might have looked like I didn't care. But I certainly did! It's ridiculous to think any kid would not care about being bullied.

When I think back, bullying in school bothered me, but most often because it puzzled me. I just couldn't grasp why it was happening, or how to consider responding. Occasionally, I wouldn't realize it until later. Sometimes I was felt incredibly dense for a child who was theoretically intelligent...not true anymore, I've learned how to recognize it, although I know I still don't react normally sometimes.

Aren't bullies as*holes?

That was somewhat my reaction too but rest assured it really does come back to traumatize you, as it would anyone.

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