Always Suspicious

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Anyone face the problem that they are always suspicious of people?

By this I mean, do you understand that they have other problems then to assist you, but at the same you're suspicious because every time they have to do something that doesn't actually require assisting you are you suspicious that its just convenient.

I mean like I understand people get sick, but I don't know why.....for some reason though I feel that if I ask someone for assistance on something they suddenly tell me, "they are sick" or "not feeling" well. And I mean I understand if that's the case, but at the same time I am suspicious and feel its to convenient.

I find that I mostly suspicious of people who haven't shown me work. Like somehow, showing me they are doing something with what they said they would assist me, that its okay when they are sick or have to go out with friends.

Anyone else have this problem?

Why can't I just trust people's word? Why is that I have to see their effort and work before I actually believe that they are working on? Why is that I have to see their effort and work to see that being sick or being busy that day isn't a convenience to get out of it?

I don't follow what you're saying, either, but I just assume as a general rule of thumb that NTs will lie to me at the drop of a hat, with no reason or provocation of any kind, therefore I analyze everything they say and cross reference it with what they actually do, in order to determine what their actual intent may be. 'Normal' human beings lie so much its just suicide to ever assume you can trust one. A good reason for avoiding them as much as possible.

Okay um.


Let me try one last time:

If someone says they will assist me. Unless they actually did work to assist me, anything they say usually sounds like an excuse to me.

Most people will not feel that you are entitled to proof.

I think you mean, whoever, whenever you ask for help, they'll say they're busy or pretend to be sick. But if they need you to help, you have to do it because you won't make excuses.

To be truthfully honest people scare me. I dont want anything to do with them, and i definetly have to move to a saller town! animals have better manners

Well if someone still hasn't helped you in any way 5 weeks at a time and keep making some excuse, I would think they are making up excuses. Unless they get ill a lot.
Usually when I say I'm ill it has anything to do with physical or mental illness. A sore back, a bad stomach, a seizure, low mood, etc. I don't go into detail because the more you talk about a neurological condition the uncomfortable the other person gets. Like I get horrible PMS pains once a month and have to take painkillers for it.. I've found myself having to pull out of doing things with the same person because of it. But if this person isn't a woman then that's probably not it.

I think I can say I've been a bit too trusting also. I like helping. Maybe it's because since I have nothing else to do, like that I seldom talk, so they talk, I help cleaning up. But sometimes people can take advantage of our goodness and vulnerability. Be careful. Usually I'm careful when they ask me to do something or lend money. I will try to figure out if it's genuine. But lately, I've been had. Some people able to kinda cheat me and I'm angry over it for a long, long time. They say they didn't cheat, just that I have to wait, and wait, and wait.