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I know what I said was wrong.

However, what upsets me more is that people think I'd be willing to do it. And I'm not and I wouldn't. I wouldn't force her to do something like that. If I did I'd probably end up self destructing. I could never do something like that to her.

Since I don't know you personally, I wasn't really thinking that you would force your girlfriend to do it. It is just when I read something like that, it just really makes me want to try and stop others from making a choice that I have totally lived to regret. I am certainly in no position at all to judge, I am just trying to help others.

I know abortion is a personal choice, and it affects each woman differently, At the time I chose to have one, I too thought that it was right for me. It wasn't until years later, after a lifestyle of heavy drinking and promiscuity, did I realize that I was trying to self destruct. After much soul searching, I realized that it had everything to do with the choice that I had made. I would give anything in this world to turn back the hands of time and make a different choice. The physical pain of an abortion did not hurt me, but the emotional pain of it is still with me years and years later.

Pandora, you sound like a good person, and I know this is tough, but I think you will make the right choices and things will work out okay. Just try to express yourself with your girlfriend as you go along, and I think she will understand.

League Girl, I am so happy you chose to have your baby! He is a beautiful little boy!! !

I think it is just that getting pregnant makes you a mother. What you do and what happens after that, gives you an adjective to add to the noun : happy, grieving, protective. But the noun stays the same.

No matter how upset I get, I never want to do anything to harm her. I don't think I'd ever forgive myself if so.

Hey, you gotta remember that we don't know you. If you say stuff like that on the internet, for all we know, you could be an absolute b*stard with the ability to coerce his girlfriend into an abortion against her will...

But I'm glad to hear you're not. Good luck

Aspies are literalists. It's in the DNA

Take a big deep breath... you are going through changes that would unhinge anyone! Don't beat yourself up!

The only one you owe any answers to is - first and foremost - yourself. Secondly, your girlfriend. Everyone else may be worried/upset/excited/anxious/ whathaveyou - that's their problem. You are under no obligaton to entertain their drama or soothe their frazzled nerves! You have every right to tell them all to back off and give you and your girlfriend some breathing room so you can sit down and think and talk and find your own answers. These are big 'rite of passage' life events you are facing. You deserve to opportunity make intelligent informed decisions. All those harpies in your ear may mean well but too bad! You know where to find them if you need their opinions.

Whatever you and your girlfriend decide - it is YOUR choice. I wish you all the love and strength in the world to help you through this challenge.

Hey Pandora_Box are you okay? I hope you're feeling better from all this..

Yes doing okay.

good to know.. take it easy.. good luck! welcome to dadhood..

You guys are all so awesome for talking to the OP.

@Nossirom

dude.. seriously, nice location and that is true! i wish i could have had thunk it..

Thank you.

I appreciate it.

@NCNBL

I had only read the first page and I had looked at how many page numbers there were on this thread. I had realized how much much I would appreciate the help given if I were in the OP's position.

And to the OP, may good vibes come to you.

@Nosirrom Yeah, i mean i really like your location and its true; you or we are inside our cranium. that's so cool you have thought of that, i wish i did, than just be at 'your house' hehehe.. anyways.. good day!