Knowing how others see you / if you are liked.

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I have a very hard time knowing how others see me. Do people think that I am odd, funny, intelligent, a good person? I don't have any clue. This goes for people that I am very close to as well as everyone else.

As an extension of that, I don't know if people like or dislike me. If they would consider me a friend. Even how my family feels towards me is confusing.

Do you suppose that this is an AS thing? I'm not sure what I am missing in being able to make these judgements. Perhaps it is the body language or perhaps just an adequate understanding of how relationships work.

I have no idea. NTs are so goddamned deceptive, never saying what they really feel, so it's hard to know how people feel about me even if they tell me.

I operate from the default assumption that anyone that expresses interest in me is doing so in order to eventually use me to his or her advantage. This way, I am never disappointed, and am often pleasantly surprised ... at least, until the inevitable conflict occurs where they want something from me and I don't want to give it. Then, according to them, I have become a jackass / jerk / bigot / sexist / racist / retard / spaz / idiot / whatever.

It's inevitable ... sooner or later ...

Yeah. I have no idea what people think of me, but sometimes I get the impression that they think I'm an as*hole. I wish they would just tell me, even if it is something I don't want to hear. That way I know how I can try to improve things.

I have no gorram idea what people think about me. Though I keep thinking that I look intimidating (I'm a tall emotionless dude with a bald head, yeah, I'd probably be scared), but sometimes people warm up to me, apparently A LOT of people at my school of over 1800 know me as the smart kid, ME HAVE NO IDEA!! !

No idea here either. I have had one girl tell me that I was "juvenile". And another that I was a "degenerate". This is after just meeting me and being around me for a couple of hours. OK then. I'm guessing that "total weirdo" is what most people think of me.

Personally, I don't think it matters as much what others really think about you as much as it matters how YOU think they think about you.

Take a guess. It's what goes on in your own mind that really matters.

As I have become less passive I become less easy to control. This is why I have few friends now, I see past the fake niceness and see them as they really as

People see me as stupid. And I suppose it's an easy mistake to make about me, because I may look stupid on the outside, and even act stupid, but on the inside I am NOT nowhere near stupid. I can suss people out as quick as lightening, and I always know who I like and who I don't like, and who they like and who they don't like. But the problem is, I find it hard standing up for myself or retaliating to anyone, so this is why I'm caught up in a trap here. People don't know that I've sussed them out already. They just think, ''oh she doesn't mind doing this and she doesn't mind doing that, and she won't mind if I tell her this and she won't mind if I tell her that.'' Oh I WISH I could stand up for myself! But if I do, (especially at my vollunteer job) I know I will say the wrong thing, and then make myself look awkward, and then creating an atmosphere without intending to, and making everyone think I've gone all huffy, then people will start gossiping and saying, ''you should have seen Josie yesterday - after 3 years of not retaliating, she actually retaliated!'' And then somebody else saying, ''I reckon she's either on drugs or have got in with a man who's changed the way she sees people. That's what I think.'' Then these gossips then turn into rumours, and I'm not popular enough to be rumoured about. All because I actually stood up for myself for the first time in my life.

So that's the story behind why NTs think I'm stupid. I am too bashful.

i have no idea!

I used to be very anxious about what others thought of me, but I am still working on getting over that. I agree with MrXxx and think it doesn't really matter. If, in a social situation, someone keeps telling you they need to leave or do something else, that could be a sign that it's not worth persisting in carrying on the interaction.

That's why I kinda rely on my yearbooks to tell me how my friends view me.

I don't know and I don't care. All that matters is what I think about myself.