Why is it so hard to find actual conversation aloud?

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I pretty much diagnosed self after sister pointed me right direction that led to official diagnosis of Asperger finally and the frustrations of dealing with it and not getting it identified till this year despite years of therapy visits for depression. The biggest frustration now is just finding people to actually talk to by voice about trying to deal with being aspie because i have not and i see my gaps i just have not found any help for filling my gaps so i can get past things like starting or finishing things even as simple as house cleaning. Its to a point i am in a slightly cluttered house as a hermit because I cant figure out where to go of find or talk to other aspies. Local area even though major city has support groups but no one to talk to if having a meltdown. No one to talk to at all so i am very frustrated since support groups are not supporting and i need it so its depressing as hell. So those aspies with others around them are lucky. But some of us only have online for a little response sometimes. So i am left in tears because no one to talk to at all.

I am a living alone hermit type myself. I also have trouble keeping up with chores. An earlier post today mentioned Executive Function Disorder. Not knowing anything about it, I looked it up, and think I have it as comorbid with my Asperger's. You may have it also. Apparently it sometimes does run comorbid with Asperger's, ADHD, and ADD. Basically, it has to to with not being good at keeping organized and keeping to schedules. I always thought of it as being disorganized. Who knew that they now consider it a disorder? My disorganized disorder is complicated further by my physical health problems. I was always disorganized, even as a child, but it is harder now to keep up with things when my sleep apnea keeps me tired and drained of energy all the time. And my IBS keeps me in the bath room a long time several times a day, lessening the time I have to do other things. Still, I do try to pick a little bit to do at a a time, so some stuff does get done.

You can try contacting local assistance organizations to see if they have people who can come in and help you with the cleaning. I am too much of a hermit for that, myself, although I don't mind meeting people when I occasionally go out to run errands.

As for support groups, why not start an adult Autism/Asperger's group of your own where you are. You will have to specify that it is just for adult Autistic/Aspies only though, other wise the group will be taken over by parents of Autistic/Asperger's kids. And they will turn the focus on just kid issues and shut out adult Autistics/Aspies. This has happened before.

If you don't want to go that route, you can still go to other local functions, like things offered by the local libraries and church groups, take adult courses from the local schools after hours, take up a hobby, etc.

Explore what's out there, and have your own adventures.