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hale_bopp
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06 Nov 2006, 8:40 pm

I kinda realised, maybe I should use the Jekyll and hyde book as an example. Look what happened when he tried to seperate them..

ahem.

But there must be something I can do to stop being rude to people.



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07 Nov 2006, 10:54 pm

If it is just the negative behaviour that you want to control, control it. If you don't have something positive or neutral to say to someone, don't say anything at all to them. Following this simple rule can help improve interpersonal interactions to some degree.


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08 Nov 2006, 5:58 am

To elaborate on what Namiko said:

Cultivate silence.


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17 Dec 2006, 3:04 pm

I only have one response: why do you think my nick's Jekyll? :P



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17 Dec 2006, 3:12 pm

sociable_hermit wrote:
Well I can't speak for Hale_bopp, but I suspect she has a similar problem to me:

I have a very clear idea of how I would like the world to be. Part of that is that I'd like everyone to be as happy as they can. And I'd like people to feel confident and supported and free to do their own thing.

I hold this concept at an ideological level.

The problem is that, in reality, my words and actions are often aggressive, negative and confusing. My brain doesn't have the speed or capacity to think about what I'm going to say and assess it against the criterea before the words start coming out of my mouth. And even though deep-down I want to be nice, most often I come across as an awkward, miserable git.

If I could change this, I would. But it seems to happen at a level beyond my conscious control.

It's horrible when you see the hurt look in the eyes of someone you really care about, when you KNOW there's no way of unsaying what's been said. I spend a lot of my time feeling very guilty about things like that.



Aye, that's why I try to say as little as possible.



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17 Dec 2006, 5:31 pm

I KNOW! There are so many times when I'm needlessly an as*hole and I wish I could control it better--not totally destroy Hyde, just bind him. The few times I'm calm I can focus enough to do that but most of the time I'm too overstimulated and overwhelmed by everything.