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OJani
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04 Jul 2012, 2:17 am

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Worst reaction: From my current boss, about a year ago: "Your attitude stinks. You never socialize with anyone at the office. Some days, you barely say ten words." Of course, he then proceeded to tell me that I'm the best person he's ever had in my position in the 30 years he's owned the business and that my focus and attention to detail are astounding. Needless to say, I left that meeting just a little confused.

Best reaction: From a co-worker: "I've never met anyone who makes so few mistakes. AS is your gift."

I make a lot of mistakes in my work, no matter how hard I try not to. That's directly tied to my low self-esteem.


Just remember that we're all different. We're on a spectrum, after all. I happen to be a person who can employ intense focus at work. It's a small office and there aren't many distractions. Yes, I deal with the public, but all I do generally is take their payment and give them their receipt. I avoid small talk as best I can without being rude. I DO make mistakes at work, but as a perfectionist who beats himself up mentally when I do make a mistake, I focus even harder to avoid making a mistake. It's actually quite unhealthy. I'm quite certain that you have many strengths that would be weaknesses for me.

I guess you are right. Sometimes it's hard to accept how things are, who we are. I try, nevertheless.



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04 Jul 2012, 2:50 am

Haven't had a negative experience.

Don't know enough people, really (cynical there with what that assumes).



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04 Jul 2012, 3:31 am

My best and worst experience ever:

as*hole online: What kind of mental problems do you have?
Me: Asperger's
as*hole online: Oh god you are stupid (logs off)


Great way to scare them away. :wink:

Happened to me about three times and it's been years now since it has last happened. Now exactly how the conversation went but it went something like this.


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04 Jul 2012, 8:09 am

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Worst, ignorant, and probably common reactions: "You don't have Asperger's...you're too normal to have Asperger's"


I've been told a few times I don't have Aspergers. I have never claimed to have it - I have just claimed (as have others) to have Autism. My diagnosis is Autistic Traits.



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04 Jul 2012, 9:30 am

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Best reaction: My Mom said "I think your Dad must have had it too, because it describes him in many ways and you are so much like him". This meant a lot to me, because my Dad died when I was eight years old and I was always very close to him and related so much to him. Now I know why we had such a special bond. (Of course, I'm also very close to my Mom and she has many of the aspie traits as well, but to a lesser degree. Therefore, I may be the product of two aspies. I don't rule that out.)

Worst, ignorant, and probably common reactions: "You don't have Asperger's...you're too normal to have Asperger's" and "Everyone has a little bit of Asperger's in them".


I had that, I kind of knew they are right in saying that but it still irked me.



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04 Jul 2012, 9:32 am

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"Everyone has a little bit of Asperger's in them"


I hate hearing that. I think that is like hearing someone is suffering from severe depression and saying "everyone gets a little sad sometimes".



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04 Jul 2012, 9:48 am

hanyo wrote:
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"Everyone has a little bit of Asperger's in them"


I hate hearing that. I think that is like hearing someone is suffering from severe depression and saying "everyone gets a little sad sometimes".


I got "oh well, we're all a bit potty in one way or another, aren't we?" So glib :x .



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04 Jul 2012, 10:12 am

Bad
Being called dumb, stupid, lame, idiot and getting laughed at, which is the story of my f*****g life.

Good
Being told how talented I am when it comes to art.
Being praised for the way I operate heavy equipment.



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04 Jul 2012, 10:15 am

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Bad
Being called dumb, stupid, lame, idiot and getting laughed at, which is the story of my f***ing life.

Good
Being told how talented I am when it comes to art.
Being praised for the way I operate heavy equipment.



Yeah, I forget moron.



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06 Jul 2012, 5:31 am

I made a claim for sickness benefit on Tuesday and had to state what my disabilities are. I said Autism and was asked what that was? :? I then said optic atrophy. Strangely, I wasn't asked what that was. (there are around 30,000 times more people in the UK with Autism than there are with OA.)