What were/are your biggest problems in school?

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Homework. It's hell. I already know everything so it doesn't help me, but executive dysfunction makes actually getting it done take forever.

Couldn't. Agree. More!
That's pretty much the standard answer given by ignorant "experts" and I can tell you it's a complete load of BS! Maybe it might work with adult bullies but trust me in school this is the single worst reaction. I tried ignoring the problem and it got to the point where even the school genius decided to join in by slamming my head into a locker so hard I got a concussion. Of course, when I could no longer hide my emotions and they came out in one huge outburst (didn't help they suspected I had leukemia too!) that made it infinitely worse but it would never got to that point if I didn't ignore them for so long.

Of course people always ridiculed me for not using my superior size and strength but they are forgetting 1)I was very smart and knew even back then I could cause serious or permanent injury if I got into a rage and didn't want to become a bully or criminal myself and 2)The numbers are ALWAYS on their side. The bullies would NEVER make a move when it was a 1 on 1 situation: in fact they were experts at pretending to be your friend and fooling the authority figures. Remember like most Aspies I was way too naive at that age and many people took full advantage of that. I always laugh at the foolish advice to 'project confidence'. How the %$@#$@# can you do that when you are in constant danger? Besides if anything that made them worse because it made it a bigger accomplishment to knock you down.

The bullying stopped near the end of Junior High when a student decided to stand up for me against a mentally unstable individual who tried gave me a vicious and unprovoked beating I will never forget. Maybe at the point even the bullies felt I had enough I was left alone in High School because they moved into criminal activity and gangs and left those who left them alone.

The usual negative AS symptoms.

Math Class
Gym Class thanks to AS and anxiety as I'm terrible at sports

That's about it in relation to AS or learning disabilities or whatever.

Huh. Isn't Math supposed to be easier for Aspies? Because I was bad at it too...

and yeah, gym of course. Nobody wanted me in their group- understandable, really, since I was clumsy and awkward and always too slow.

Hmm... I'd have to say the worst things about school were:

1) Math. I've failed about 5 times and I still don't get. Anything beyond complex addition is a mystery.
2) Boredom. I was obsessed with (and still am) encyclopedias. I read so much ahead of time there was nothing to do! This brings me to . . .
3) Getting into trouble. I would be so bored that I would break into offices and make the rooms more efficiently organized, or color code files. I love decorating and would paint "accent walls" to bring more style to a room. My teachers thought I was crazy and refused to take me seriously. Really I think someone coming in and organizing your stuff for you by alphabet/time/person is a very nice thing to do. It saves you so much time when looking up data!

1) When I was younger, my problem was spacing out. I would stare at one spot and just go into some bubble zone where I didn't hear what was going on around me.

My teacher used to make jokes about it--once, she cut out a paper crown, put it on my head, and called me the Queen of La-La land. Fortunately, I've always been optimistic to an unreasonable point, so I just thought it was nice of her to put a crown on me.

I suspect it also had to do with my mom being a British immigrant in the US--because the teacher used to always ask me "how was tea with the Queen?" and she was a very patriotic American.

2) Then, later, it became the bullying. I didn't fit in, and it was becoming increasingly apparent in middle school. There was a group of boys that seemed to have one or two members in every class. They sexually harassed me by whispering crude, explicit sexual things in my ears, putting their arms around me, and laying on top of my desk until I agreed to give them a fake phone number. I am still disappointed with the teachers for not reacting.

One threw twenty tape wads in my hair during class, which was too thick and long for me to notice right away. None of the kids said anything--even though the ones behind would obviously have been watching.

I actually started ditching class in middle school, to avoid seeing them. I would go into the bathroom and sit there, alone, for the class. Sometimes crying and sometimes drawing. Then I started getting mysterious stomach aches before catching the bus in the morning--and missing the bus and staying home with a stomach ache.

NOW, I went back to college and I loved it. Being an adult is much better. I carry pepper spray on me and have more rights. If a man were to try to whisper sexually explicit things in my ears--or put his arm around me--or refuse to leave me alone unless I gave him my number--he would get his facial orifices filled with pepper spray. It gets better, even in college.