I need your help with understanding some things.

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I do that too. Sometimes when walking outside I think about how the Earth is orbiting the sun at an average orbital speed of 107 200 km/h and how the Earth at the same time rotates around its own axis. And we live here, on a tiny speck in a vast universe containing billions and billions of galaxies (which in turn contain billions and billions of stars). Seriously, just writing about this makes me really excited. Almost bouncing in my chair.

Exactly. I think the Hubble Deep Field image is the most profound, amazing, astonishing thing I've ever heard of, and I count myself spectacularly lucky to live in the era when it was taken. And I know almost no one else who's ever heard of it. Talk about feeling alienated. Wrong planet, indeed.

It wasn't offensive. I had written down the wrong facts and you were right. It's as simple as that

Science is awesome. It's my biggest and most intense interest. Love it! I'm not sure what it has to do with not being able to sleep though? Care to explain it again? I don't think I understood what you meant.

I think any neurotypical would freak out and be angry, whereas almost all people in the spectrum would understand I meant no harm, like you did.
In this way we are much more tolerant than most
Because rationally it's "simple as that". But NT's *feel* well, well before they actually start thinking.
And they'll feel "belittled, angry, slapped on the wrist" etc. etc.
The reason is probably that all NT's would simply let the error persist, because they know ego's and feeling's would get "bruised" (took me decades to figure all this out!! !)

I guess I went a little too far/specific with trying to explain myself here...
I first realized what I was talking about in my previous post when my therapist explained it like I quoted at the end of that post.

The bottom line is: A common and useful "defense strategy" the brain uses against mounting stress is simply to literally "take your mind off of things".
When you are outside you are prone to an infinite amount of random socially ubiquitous/un-anticipated situations.
If you would step outside and would start to just think about that you'd get so anxious it'd be very diffcult and stressfull to actually go to the store etc...
So you start to wonder, or think about science stuff; all things that can be gotten exactly right by knowing the facts, instead of interpreting ethereal things like "feelings" etc.

I hope my explanation is a bit more clear. I'm drunk at the moment, you see...
Instead of lying in bed for hours on end, wasting time trying to get to sleep, I simply drink some vodka and get to rest right away.
Sure, alcohol might be poison, but any -medical- drug can be described that way.
I'll try to stop once I get into the more sheltered living situation I'm on the waiting list for

If the explanation still isn't clear just say so and I'll elaborate when waking up 14 hours from now!

Well, I freaked out a little bit. Not because you were right but because I made a mistake. I'm such a perfectionist and I really don't like being wrong. But no matter how I felt you were right so I didn't get angry or anything. It really is as simple as that. Do you know what I mean?

Yeah, I think I know what you mean. You might be right. I haven't thought about it that way before.

Just be careful with the alcohol. I used to self-medicate with alcohol a few years ago (to make my anxiety go away) and it wasn't really good for me.

1. I often find myself not knowing what to do in certain situations. Example: if someone (child or adult) trips/falls and hurts themselves (or if they trip/fall without getting hurt) I get very confused. I never know how to act or what to do in those situations. Should I say something? Do they want me to do something? Most of the time I just stay put and do nothing and sometimes I, a bit awkwardly, say "are you ok?". I only ask "are you ok?" if I know the person and even if I know the person I don't always ask.

If someone's crying I get the same feeling of confusion but I often manage to ask what's going on (if I know the person that is) and depending on who's crying I ask if they want a hug.

Why do I have this problem? Is it a confidence problem? What do people really want me to do in situations like these?

2. I've always (for as long as I can remember) felt different and I've felt like I view the world in a different way than the people around me. One example of this is that when I go outside I often don't just go outside; I think about everything (not always but often). I think about what the air I breathe in consists of, I think about how the respiratory system works, I think about how it's taken 8 minutes for the light I see to travel to Earth and I think about the fact that I sort of look back 8 minutes in time all the time. I think about the colours of things and I wonder if people see for example the colour green the same way as I do. And I think about why I can see that green colour. Loads of things like that. When I mention it to people they say "be careful about saying that to people or they might think you're weird." Not sure they were serious?

I hope you understand what I mean. It's a bit difficult to explain. Anyway, am I the only one who do this?