Do you get really pissed when someone tries to command you?

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And think they now better than you? I get really pissed and want that person to f**k off. This includes even my parents, I get angry when they tell me to do this and that, I literally feel humiliated. Do any other aspies feel that?

Last edited by Dizzee on 23 Oct 2012, 12:41 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I do.

It depends on what the person is telling me to do and the way in which they go about telling me to do it. I'm always open to suggestion, and I don't mind people who are just trying to help.

But if you just mean some control freak who tries to run your life, oh hell no. I don't feel humiliated, but I get pissed.

a similar thing to me is people who think they are better than you and give advice that they do not follow themselves or make comments about people and they are really no better than who they are criticizing.

Yes, I do.

These commands are usually irrational and wrong anyway so I'll criticize their orders to the bone, they get frustrated because I'm pointing the gaping holes in their logic out and they get so mad that their orders seem illegitimate.

I can take suggestions but if you try to command me to do something you make an enemy of me. I have always been that way. My 5th grade teacher would always ask me to do everything rather than tell me and I would do whatever he asked me to. I have other elementary school teachers nervous breakdowns.

Well, I can take constructive critique, accept advices, but often I'd engage myself in endless disputes about them. If they are criticizing other people while they are no better (they don't look in the mirror), inconsistent, or use double standard, I can get really pissed off.

I get pissed when someone tries to make me do something. I was told to sit down by this b***h and I wouldn't because I've been sitting too much anyhow after a long ass flight through 11 time zones. I just wanted to walk around and rest my legs and ass. Anyhow I didn't sit down and she shut her mouth. And the only reason I took a flight that required 14 hours of flight time to may destination is because of one of my intense interests.


My brother was bad about trying to make me read certain books, believe in certain things, eat certain foods and do things his way.

But, being bossed around by others just didn't stop there. However, if others makes a suggestion, than I'm willing to work with them.

It depends on how they do it. If they are talking down to me and acting like a condescending jerk then yes, I resent it. However, when I am at work, I realize that I am there to do a job and that I should do what I am asked. So long as the person asking it does not come across as though they are superior to me then I don't have a problem with it.

I don't mind it when people make suggestions, in fact I like them. Constructive criticism can sometimes be painful but I take it because I need it, but when people just boss me around, tell me straight up 'you have to do this that and the other' it makes me really mad. I'm okay as far as employers doing this because I have no choice, but when it's my family, especially my mom and my sister, it makes me want to strangle them. I have callouses on my fingers from where I bite them in frustration when my mother bosses me around.

I hate being told what to do. I generally take it better now than I used to. I get told to do chores here at my house for example. If I 'don't do it properly' (that's their opinion!) and they tell me to do it again I just end up shouting 'F*** it, if I can't do it right why bother?' then walk off.

no one likes to be ordered around.

Hm.... When someone tells me to do something with authority, my first instinct is always to do what they say. It's not until later that I realize they were wrong or unjustified or just plain rude, and that it's okay to say NO to something I don't want to do.

I always assumed this was an autistic trait. I'm so used to everything I do naturally being "wrong" that when someone criticizes me, I always assume it's because I've done the wrong thing again. I want to do the "right" thing, be likeable, bring happiness to those around me in any way I can, so I've grown to trust other people more than myself -- but when I really think about specific situations after the fact, I often realize that they were the ones who were wrong, not me. Still, that initial instinctive response is powerful and it takes some time for me to realize it's happened again.

Am I the only one like this?

ditto

I get pissed off when people start lecturing me. They say that NTs know that other people have different beliefs or standards from the age of 5, but sometimes I'm not always that sure. I like to wear flat shoes, I know a lot of people who prefer flat shoes to high-heeled shoes so it's nothing out of the ordinary, but my friend keeps on at me to buy high-heeled shoes. I tell her time and time again that I feel more comfortable in flat shoes, but she seems to think that high-heeled shoes are more feminine. It is true that high-heeled shoes are feminine, but not more feminine. You can get all sorts of flat shoes that are very feminine and stylish and common in most girls. My friend doesn't seem to realise that I prefer flat shoes. She wears flat shoes too and doesn't own a pair of high-heeled shoes, so I don't know what she is fussing about.

I don't mind people giving lectures of commands in some ways. Like when I was feeling nervous about a job interview and was reluctant to go, and my friends were encouraging me by saying, ''you must stick to it, because if you choose to turn down the interview, you could end up regreting it for the rest of your life''. They had a point, and a job interview is more of a big deal than wearing flat or high-heeled shoes, so I knew their lecturing was going to my advantage, and I listened to my friends and did the right thing, and was glad that had gave the lecture to me.

So there are good points and bad points, but it's when people lecture me over trivial things that piss me off.