Really hate being late for appointments but always are

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I went to a group therapy session everyday at 8:30am Monday to Friday and was always consistently late for 3 months.

I even mentioned to the group and therapist that I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome and tried to blame it on that. But the therapist shot me down and said "if I did have AS I would be the first one there every morning!'

This has been a constant throughout my life, late again! late again! late again!, from birth, school, work, family, friends...
Even for Doctors appointments, my Doc tells the receptionist to notify me of my appointment 30 minutes in advance.

I'm guessing that I could be alone on this one maybe, I don't know. It stresses me out to the max and makes me anxious but I keep right on doing it like a dummy even though I know it's rude and disrespectful?
I sit there beating myself up over it while hanging my head in shame and feeling everyones anger at me. What's wrong with me?
All the other AS traits I can relate to 100% textbook like, except lateness.

same here

I have the same issue, and I believe a week or so ago somebody found its name... iirc... what was it... Executive dysfunction? I think.

I am usually late because I think okay my appt is at 9:30am, and it's 8:00am now. So I usually take about a half hour to get ready, so I will start that at about 8:45-9:50am. So I have about 45 minutes before I need to start getting ready, so I find something to pass the time and then I find it and here is where I mess up and get too involved and run late lol. Then say "Oh crap (or other variation ) and it's 9:00am. So I have to really RUSH and then of course I need gas, etc. I am horrible at that and have a hard time planning things. I don't always think of EVERYTHING I need.

I the same problem. I has nothing to do with.preparing earlier. I can start to get ready 3 hours before appointment and ill still be late. I have very bad feeling of time. I think normal people use the same time doing stuff.

With me one day a bath may take 5min or it might take 30 min. Time just goes very fast sometimes.

I am late to absolutely everything even work, but fortunately I work for charity so I have not been fired, I agree with what was mentioned previously if I wake up with 15 minutes or 8 hours to get there I am usually late by the same amount.

Does anyone else find that everything they attend regularly, they are consistently late to? By that I mean late by the same amount of time.

I also have this problem and it is difficult to explain why.

I gather it comes from the Asperger poor perception of time but I have a feeling anxiety and stress also play a role, especially if the appointment involves interaction with other people. I think the problem of procrastination is related. I tend to procrastinate when I have to perform some sort of undesirable or difficult task at work and end up finishing it right on the deadline or later, whatever the task or the normal duration it should take. The source of this I figure is anxiety.

yep, I can relate to all the above ..my partner who is not AS is the same, if not worse than me, at being late for absolutely EVERYTHING! ...this whole time thing drives me insane

Maz

I have OCD and ASD and at my OCD group therapy sessions I was always the first on there...I even ridiculed the rest of the group for constantly being late and that people with OCD were usually on time...little did I realize I was only speaking for myself...the guy with ASD