HOUSE GUEST! BLAAAAAAAAH

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I originally thought my husband's house guest was going to be on the same schedule as him! Meaning my husband would go to sleep at 8pm and they would wake up 1am to leave by 2am to fly to Florida (my husband piloting small aircraft). These numbnuts are going on a skydiving mini vacation!

First I don't know when this guy is even going to show up as he is driving up from Boston. And now I find out that this guy is NOT going to go to sleep at the same time and might be up late doing who knows what--since he can sleep in the plane! My husband says, "Don't worry, he's low maintenance." I say, "Yes but that means YOUR GUEST is going to be lurking around doing Who Knows What while I am trying to unwind and clean up while you sleep! Am I supposed to entertain him? Can't you make him go to sleep the same time you go to sleep???" My husband looked at me and laughed and asked, "What, are you nuts?!"

This is extremely agitating!! !! !! !! !! !

Since your husband had the nerve to surprise you with a guest, i would make them both go to bed at the same time in the same room and lock them in until morning.
Couples should communicate he either didn't tell you as he knew you wouldn't agree to it, so he "surprises" you instead with this whole house guest bit which is not acceptable.
He's not honoring your feelings about it.

In his defense, he actually did tell me about it a few weeks ago, knowing how I hate surprises and need time to get comfortable with these sorts of things. However, what I didn't realize was that they were not going to be on the same schedule and that I'd be in the uncomfortable position of entertaining this guy while my husband sleeps(!)

He reassures me that his friend is "low maintenance" and "has had an interesting life" because "he had a difficult childhood too" (as if that gives us common ground to bond), and all I'm thinking is "I AM SO NOT HAPPY WITH YOU RIGHT NOW!! !! !! !! !"

I can completely empathize with your situation. Whenever we have house guests, even if they're relatives, it drives me absolutely nuts, especially since my schedule is way off and I absolutely need my late nights being the only one up and active. Almost worse than that, is waking up in the morning, knowing that the guests might already be up and moving around the house...GAH, I don't know why that bothers me, but I can't stand having just woken up and being around people who have been awake for a while. Talk about nuts, right? I know that if I was a house guest of someone else, I'd do everything in my power to be unobtrusive, so I hope this guy is the same!