Connection between people w/disorders?

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I sometimes seem to "connect" to people with disorders. Not all the time but sometimes. It's like people with things like Bipolar disorder, AS or just people who are different are the people I can most relate to even though I don't know them very well. Does that happen to anyone else?

Same here

That's the "Outsider" Syndrome. Isn't it?

Me too (bipolar, borderline). Unfortunately this kind of relationship doesn't seem very good for me in the long-term, since i put myself in a position of dependence that really makes me sick.

I've also made better connections with people who are
Bipolar etc or even just immigrants,because I can identify with them living in a different 'culture'

I seem to do that too.

All of my friends have some sort of neuropysch condition: Asperger's, Borderline Personality Disorder, generalized anxiety, etc.
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I tend to connect on some level by reading about various disabilities, not just Austism/AS, but also cerebral palsy, Down Syndrome and some rarer conditions. I have also read a great deal about people who have worked to come back from brain traumas due to accident or illness.

I like to read about people who have succeeded against the odds, whether they had an obvious disablity or not. Roger Bannister, for example, is a highly intelligent, successful man who has some AS features. He also had serious health issues growing up, such as nervous headaches. From his description, it sounds as though he suffered from migraine type headaches. He said he was subject to "nervous headaches and attacks of violent sickness." Maybe his early history contributed to his desire to become a neurologist and study the workings of the brain.

I guess when you are viewed as an outsider yourself, it's easier to connect with other 'outsiders'. But then, because you are all friends with each other in a group, you are no longer 'outsiders' but a group of people with different qualities as opposed to a clique with all the same boring qualities you see littered about in public.

Yes, that sums it up for me as well.

I have a great friend who is bipolar.

I have a hard enough time handling one person with a "disorder" (myself). I don't see I could handle a whole group of others.

Depends. I don't generally get along with bipolar people though, because I generally find them obnoxious (or really scary, depending upon how severe it is and how rapid cycling they are).

Agreed. I have had several bi-polar and OCD "friends". I think those people look for Aspies because NT's won't put up with their craziness and Aspies can sometimes be easy to dominate. Something very odd I found, someone I know who behaves bi-polar and jokingly says she thinks she is OCD was always introducing me to guys that appeared to be Aspie. It's almost like she collected Aspies and that freaked me out. She was terribly verbally abusive. I didn't want to be added to her collection so I quickly stopped associating with her.

As for me, I live with them, and there's a term for that, it's called a family. It seems like there are a bunch of people, both in my immediate family and relatives who tend to be at best, subtly eccentric and at worst, appear to be somewhat mentally unbalanced.